By Rebecca Perry
Breast size and weight are two issues women struggle with the most. Society has placed a great deal of emphasis on outward appearance. Differences in body types make us who we are. Some women feel uncomfortable with their weight or their bust size and that is perfectly natural. Confidence is a quality that makes us who we are. Many men say a confident woman is a sexy woman. When a woman isn't comfortable with her body, she doesn't display that air of confidence that attracts potential partners. Herbal remedies, hormone therapy and surgery are the three most popular ways to increase breast size and fullness.
Weight and Breast Size
Because of the amount of fatty tissue in the breast, when a woman loses weight she also loses some fullness in her bust. The opposite is generally true for a woman who gains weight. Unfortunately weight gain isn't the healthy way to increase bust size, and it doesn't always work as planned. Some women request hormone therapy as a more natural form of breast enhancement. Hormone levels have a great impact on breast size, shape and fullness. Hormone therapy often has other undesirable side effects that make it a less viable.
Surgical Breast Enhancement
Surgical enhancement is considered major surgery and should be considered very carefully. It is not covered by most major insurances because it is not considered a necessary surgery. Complications include infection, rupture and loss of sensation. About 16 percent of women who undergo surgery report complications. Of that 16 percent, 1 percent requires additional surgery to repair issues caused by the initial enhancement.
Natural Breast Enhancement
Sometimes surgery simply isn't the answer. Many women choose to use natural remedies in pill or cream form. Certain herbs have proven effective in their ability to increase the size and firmness of the breast. Used with consistency, herbal remedies provide very positive results. Herbs such as fenugreek are rich in substances that aid in the development of mammary glands. Fennel seed contains flavonoids that help repair and stimulate new tissue growth.
Other herbs such as black cohosh produce results similar to drugs used in hormone replacement therapy. Herbal remedies rarely produce harmful side effects. Even though they're considered a healthy alternative medicine, check with your doctor before using herbs to self treat. Always read the instructions printed on the bottle carefully. Even herbs run the risk of overdose, although it is a small risk.
Benefits of Natural Breast Enhancement
Unlike surgery, which is permanent whether good or bad, herbal enhancers are all natural and completely in your control. They allow you to control how many cup sizes you increase. Stop treatment when you feel you've reached the size you're comfortable with. Resume treatment at any time if you decide you want more fullness or even another cup size.
Remember, a confident woman is a sexy woman. When a woman looks and feels her best, she soars above the rest. The added benefits of herbal remedies allow a full-body transition, not just larger, fuller breasts. The results are permanent and newly formed tissue does not go away when you stop taking the supplement.
In addition to enhancing the size, shape and fullness of the breast, herbal remedies provide many more health benefits. Other benefits may include improved thyroid function, hormonal balancing, fewer menstrual problems and improved hair and nail growth. The overall benefits of natural breast enhancement as opposed to surgery are phenomenal.
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Foods to Make Your Breasts Grow Bigger
By Jenny Bolton
Getting bigger breasts is a big wish for many women, but there's been a "mystery" surrounding it for many years. The reality is that making your breasts grow bigger is actually a lot easier than you might think. It's all to do with a hormone that every woman has in her body, and the foods that make that hormone grow your breasts for you...
The reason why some women have big breasts and some have small breasts is all down to a hormone inside us called Estrogen, and getting more of this hormone is the key to making your breasts grow bigger. You see, Estrogen is a natural hormone which gives us all our womanly features. It's the single most important factor in a woman's body, which makes us develop breasts and have a menstrual cycle, etc.
The reason why I'm talking about Estrogen is because it's this hormone which decides how much our breasts grow. In lamens terms, it's like a "magic formula" which tells your brain to grow boobs when you are 13 and to stop growing them when you're 15-18. But unfortunately for many women, Estrogen told your brain to stop growing your breasts before they were as big as you would like... meaning that they now seem to be underdeveloped or small.
Fixing this is actually very simple. After puberty stopped your breasts growing, it just left enough Estrogen to keep your breasts the same size for the rest of your adult life. To make your breasts grow again, you simply need to eat the foods which are going to introduce a lot more estrogen into your body, telling your brain to make your breasts start growing again.
Luckily, Estrogen is a naturally occurring substance, which is present in many foods. Soy-based foods, herbs such as sage and rosemary, and even fruits such as oranges, contain enough natural Estrogen to make your breasts grow up to 1-2 cup sizes. However, you can't just eat all these foods and hope your boobs will grow. You need to eat them in a certain amount each day in order for there to be no unwanted side effects.
Getting bigger breasts is a big wish for many women, but there's been a "mystery" surrounding it for many years. The reality is that making your breasts grow bigger is actually a lot easier than you might think. It's all to do with a hormone that every woman has in her body, and the foods that make that hormone grow your breasts for you...
The reason why some women have big breasts and some have small breasts is all down to a hormone inside us called Estrogen, and getting more of this hormone is the key to making your breasts grow bigger. You see, Estrogen is a natural hormone which gives us all our womanly features. It's the single most important factor in a woman's body, which makes us develop breasts and have a menstrual cycle, etc.
The reason why I'm talking about Estrogen is because it's this hormone which decides how much our breasts grow. In lamens terms, it's like a "magic formula" which tells your brain to grow boobs when you are 13 and to stop growing them when you're 15-18. But unfortunately for many women, Estrogen told your brain to stop growing your breasts before they were as big as you would like... meaning that they now seem to be underdeveloped or small.
Fixing this is actually very simple. After puberty stopped your breasts growing, it just left enough Estrogen to keep your breasts the same size for the rest of your adult life. To make your breasts grow again, you simply need to eat the foods which are going to introduce a lot more estrogen into your body, telling your brain to make your breasts start growing again.
Luckily, Estrogen is a naturally occurring substance, which is present in many foods. Soy-based foods, herbs such as sage and rosemary, and even fruits such as oranges, contain enough natural Estrogen to make your breasts grow up to 1-2 cup sizes. However, you can't just eat all these foods and hope your boobs will grow. You need to eat them in a certain amount each day in order for there to be no unwanted side effects.
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Foods to Make Your Breasts Grow Bigger
By Jenny Bolton
Getting bigger breasts is a big wish for many women, but there's been a "mystery" surrounding it for many years. The reality is that making your breasts grow bigger is actually a lot easier than you might think. It's all to do with a hormone that every woman has in her body, and the foods that make that hormone grow your breasts for you...
The reason why some women have big breasts and some have small breasts is all down to a hormone inside us called Estrogen, and getting more of this hormone is the key to making your breasts grow bigger. You see, Estrogen is a natural hormone which gives us all our womanly features. It's the single most important factor in a woman's body, which makes us develop breasts and have a menstrual cycle, etc.
The reason why I'm talking about Estrogen is because it's this hormone which decides how much our breasts grow. In lamens terms, it's like a "magic formula" which tells your brain to grow boobs when you are 13 and to stop growing them when you're 15-18. But unfortunately for many women, Estrogen told your brain to stop growing your breasts before they were as big as you would like... meaning that they now seem to be underdeveloped or small.
Fixing this is actually very simple. After puberty stopped your breasts growing, it just left enough Estrogen to keep your breasts the same size for the rest of your adult life. To make your breasts grow again, you simply need to eat the foods which are going to introduce a lot more estrogen into your body, telling your brain to make your breasts start growing again.
Luckily, Estrogen is a naturally occurring substance, which is present in many foods. Soy-based foods, herbs such as sage and rosemary, and even fruits such as oranges, contain enough natural Estrogen to make your breasts grow up to 1-2 cup sizes. However, you can't just eat all these foods and hope your boobs will grow. You need to eat them in a certain amount each day in order for there to be no unwanted side effects.
Getting bigger breasts is a big wish for many women, but there's been a "mystery" surrounding it for many years. The reality is that making your breasts grow bigger is actually a lot easier than you might think. It's all to do with a hormone that every woman has in her body, and the foods that make that hormone grow your breasts for you...
The reason why some women have big breasts and some have small breasts is all down to a hormone inside us called Estrogen, and getting more of this hormone is the key to making your breasts grow bigger. You see, Estrogen is a natural hormone which gives us all our womanly features. It's the single most important factor in a woman's body, which makes us develop breasts and have a menstrual cycle, etc.
The reason why I'm talking about Estrogen is because it's this hormone which decides how much our breasts grow. In lamens terms, it's like a "magic formula" which tells your brain to grow boobs when you are 13 and to stop growing them when you're 15-18. But unfortunately for many women, Estrogen told your brain to stop growing your breasts before they were as big as you would like... meaning that they now seem to be underdeveloped or small.
Fixing this is actually very simple. After puberty stopped your breasts growing, it just left enough Estrogen to keep your breasts the same size for the rest of your adult life. To make your breasts grow again, you simply need to eat the foods which are going to introduce a lot more estrogen into your body, telling your brain to make your breasts start growing again.
Luckily, Estrogen is a naturally occurring substance, which is present in many foods. Soy-based foods, herbs such as sage and rosemary, and even fruits such as oranges, contain enough natural Estrogen to make your breasts grow up to 1-2 cup sizes. However, you can't just eat all these foods and hope your boobs will grow. You need to eat them in a certain amount each day in order for there to be no unwanted side effects.
How to Get Bigger Breasts With No Surgery
By Rebecca Perry
Breast size and weight are two issues women struggle with the most. Society has placed a great deal of emphasis on outward appearance. Differences in body types make us who we are. Some women feel uncomfortable with their weight or their bust size and that is perfectly natural. Confidence is a quality that makes us who we are. Many men say a confident woman is a sexy woman. When a woman isn't comfortable with her body, she doesn't display that air of confidence that attracts potential partners. Herbal remedies, hormone therapy and surgery are the three most popular ways to increase breast size and fullness.
Weight and Breast Size
Because of the amount of fatty tissue in the breast, when a woman loses weight she also loses some fullness in her bust. The opposite is generally true for a woman who gains weight. Unfortunately weight gain isn't the healthy way to increase bust size, and it doesn't always work as planned. Some women request hormone therapy as a more natural form of breast enhancement. Hormone levels have a great impact on breast size, shape and fullness. Hormone therapy often has other undesirable side effects that make it a less viable.
Surgical Breast Enhancement
Surgical enhancement is considered major surgery and should be considered very carefully. It is not covered by most major insurances because it is not considered a necessary surgery. Complications include infection, rupture and loss of sensation. About 16 percent of women who undergo surgery report complications. Of that 16 percent, 1 percent requires additional surgery to repair issues caused by the initial enhancement.
Natural Breast Enhancement
Sometimes surgery simply isn't the answer. Many women choose to use natural remedies in pill or cream form. Certain herbs have proven effective in their ability to increase the size and firmness of the breast. Used with consistency, herbal remedies provide very positive results. Herbs such as fenugreek are rich in substances that aid in the development of mammary glands. Fennel seed contains flavonoids that help repair and stimulate new tissue growth.
Other herbs such as black cohosh produce results similar to drugs used in hormone replacement therapy. Herbal remedies rarely produce harmful side effects. Even though they're considered a healthy alternative medicine, check with your doctor before using herbs to self treat. Always read the instructions printed on the bottle carefully. Even herbs run the risk of overdose, although it is a small risk.
Benefits of Natural Breast Enhancement
Unlike surgery, which is permanent whether good or bad, herbal enhancers are all natural and completely in your control. They allow you to control how many cup sizes you increase. Stop treatment when you feel you've reached the size you're comfortable with. Resume treatment at any time if you decide you want more fullness or even another cup size.
Remember, a confident woman is a sexy woman. When a woman looks and feels her best, she soars above the rest. The added benefits of herbal remedies allow a full-body transition, not just larger, fuller breasts. The results are permanent and newly formed tissue does not go away when you stop taking the supplement.
In addition to enhancing the size, shape and fullness of the breast, herbal remedies provide many more health benefits. Other benefits may include improved thyroid function, hormonal balancing, fewer menstrual problems and improved hair and nail growth. The overall benefits of natural breast enhancement as opposed to surgery are phenomenal.
Breast size and weight are two issues women struggle with the most. Society has placed a great deal of emphasis on outward appearance. Differences in body types make us who we are. Some women feel uncomfortable with their weight or their bust size and that is perfectly natural. Confidence is a quality that makes us who we are. Many men say a confident woman is a sexy woman. When a woman isn't comfortable with her body, she doesn't display that air of confidence that attracts potential partners. Herbal remedies, hormone therapy and surgery are the three most popular ways to increase breast size and fullness.
Weight and Breast Size
Because of the amount of fatty tissue in the breast, when a woman loses weight she also loses some fullness in her bust. The opposite is generally true for a woman who gains weight. Unfortunately weight gain isn't the healthy way to increase bust size, and it doesn't always work as planned. Some women request hormone therapy as a more natural form of breast enhancement. Hormone levels have a great impact on breast size, shape and fullness. Hormone therapy often has other undesirable side effects that make it a less viable.
Surgical Breast Enhancement
Surgical enhancement is considered major surgery and should be considered very carefully. It is not covered by most major insurances because it is not considered a necessary surgery. Complications include infection, rupture and loss of sensation. About 16 percent of women who undergo surgery report complications. Of that 16 percent, 1 percent requires additional surgery to repair issues caused by the initial enhancement.
Natural Breast Enhancement
Sometimes surgery simply isn't the answer. Many women choose to use natural remedies in pill or cream form. Certain herbs have proven effective in their ability to increase the size and firmness of the breast. Used with consistency, herbal remedies provide very positive results. Herbs such as fenugreek are rich in substances that aid in the development of mammary glands. Fennel seed contains flavonoids that help repair and stimulate new tissue growth.
Other herbs such as black cohosh produce results similar to drugs used in hormone replacement therapy. Herbal remedies rarely produce harmful side effects. Even though they're considered a healthy alternative medicine, check with your doctor before using herbs to self treat. Always read the instructions printed on the bottle carefully. Even herbs run the risk of overdose, although it is a small risk.
Benefits of Natural Breast Enhancement
Unlike surgery, which is permanent whether good or bad, herbal enhancers are all natural and completely in your control. They allow you to control how many cup sizes you increase. Stop treatment when you feel you've reached the size you're comfortable with. Resume treatment at any time if you decide you want more fullness or even another cup size.
Remember, a confident woman is a sexy woman. When a woman looks and feels her best, she soars above the rest. The added benefits of herbal remedies allow a full-body transition, not just larger, fuller breasts. The results are permanent and newly formed tissue does not go away when you stop taking the supplement.
In addition to enhancing the size, shape and fullness of the breast, herbal remedies provide many more health benefits. Other benefits may include improved thyroid function, hormonal balancing, fewer menstrual problems and improved hair and nail growth. The overall benefits of natural breast enhancement as opposed to surgery are phenomenal.
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
How To Forgive Someone Who Has Hurt You
By Dr Kim.
A few days ago, I was flipping through an Oprah magazine that my wife borrowed from our public library when I came across a short piece on forgiveness by playwright and actor Tyler Perry.
Here's the part that I felt a strong connection to:
My father was a carpenter. He used his hands to pour concrete and hammer nails. He also used his hands to beat me.
I was a tall child, but sickly—I had asthma—and when I went to work with him, the sawdust made me cough. I preferred staying home, writing and drawing. I conjured up other worlds: worlds in which I didn't worry about being poor, in which I was someone else's child, a child who lived in a mansion and had a dog. My father—a man with a third-grade education who was orphaned at 2 and sent to work in the fields at 5—understood only the physical. He thought he could beat the softness out of me and make me hard like him.
When I was 21, I left my house in New Orleans and headed to Atlanta to be a playwright. I got a day job as a bill collector and scrimped and saved to put on my play I Know I've Been Changed— a musical about recovering from an abusive childhood. But even though I was writing about recovering, I wasn't doing it. Every day I felt angry and bitter and terribly lonely. I rarely dated, and if a woman told me she loved me, I headed for the door. My play bombed; 30 people came on opening weekend. I put it on the next year and the year after that, and each time, it bombed again. Finally, 28 years old, out of money and months behind on my rent, I started sleeping in my car. When the car broke down, I asked my father to cosign on a new one, as he had just done for my sister (the light-skinned sister he adored). When he refused, I forged his signature. And when the car got repossessed, he called me, yelling. Sitting in that little room I'd just scraped together enough money to rent, listening to him berate me, something snapped. Something dormant in me woke up, and I began to yell back.
I told him that he'd hated me since I was born, that I didn't deserve the things he'd done to me. Everything I'd ever felt or thought—even things I hadn't been aware of—came out. When I was done, the line was silent for a long time. And then, for the first time ever, my father said, "I love you."
After we hung up, I felt light, empty, and exhausted. I knew that I would never again look at my father in hurt or anger. But in a strange way, I also sensed that something had died. I sat crying for hours, as if I were in mourning. My energy source, my fight, the rage that had moved me every day—it was all gone.
Slowly but surely, I began to fuel my days with joy instead of fury. That year—call it coincidence, call it karma—my play sold out. Then it sold out again, and then again. I began to write new plays, and the theme of forgiveness runs through them all. It's simple: When you haven't forgiven those who've hurt you, you turn your back against your future. When you do forgive, you start walking forward.
I can't get over how powerful his last statement is:
When you haven't forgiven those who've hurt you, you turn your back against your future. When you do forgive, you start walking forward.
I understand and agree with the idea that forgiving others is more about your peace of mind then it is about their feelings. You don't have to make it known to those who have hurt you that you have forgiven them.
The issue is learning how to transcend the hurt, how to get to a place in your heart and mind where the hurt is no longer holding you back from fully caring for others and allowing yourself to be cared for by others.
Is it possible to truly forgive all transgressions?
How do you forgive someone who physically abused you when you were a child?
How do you forgive someone who raped you or a family member?
How do you forgive someone who spread vicious and humiliating lies about you?
How do you forgive parents who put their own needs and egos way ahead of your basic emotional needs as a child?
How do you forgive a parent who left you when you were young?
How do you forgive someone who has sucked the joy out of your life through his or her negative, hypocritical, phony, lazy, selfish, and ill-tempered behavior through decades of marriage?
Maybe complete forgiveness is impossible in some cases. Maybe hurt that you have encountered is so bad that you will suffer to some degree until you pass on because you will always be angry at the people who hurt you.
If you are determined to find a way to free yourself of the burden of chronic anger, no matter how badly you have been hurt, there is one powerful and effective exercise that I can recommend.
It's to sit or lie in a quiet place and imagine your tormentors as they were when they were babies or young children. Visualize these people one at a time, and really take time to feel the realities of their lives as toddlers.
Babies are not born with a distinct desire to hurt others physically or emotionally. They are born craving love and protection. Visualize what your tormentors were like when they did nothing but crave love and protection.
If you work at realizing how pure and innocent your tormentors once were, you may come to a point where it becomes clear that their hurtful acts as older children or adults likely stem from their own wounds.
If you know of another effective way of bringing yourself to forgive people who have hurt you badly, I would appreciate you sharing in the comments section below. Your thoughts on this topic may make a significant difference in another person's life.
A few days ago, I was flipping through an Oprah magazine that my wife borrowed from our public library when I came across a short piece on forgiveness by playwright and actor Tyler Perry.
Here's the part that I felt a strong connection to:
My father was a carpenter. He used his hands to pour concrete and hammer nails. He also used his hands to beat me.
I was a tall child, but sickly—I had asthma—and when I went to work with him, the sawdust made me cough. I preferred staying home, writing and drawing. I conjured up other worlds: worlds in which I didn't worry about being poor, in which I was someone else's child, a child who lived in a mansion and had a dog. My father—a man with a third-grade education who was orphaned at 2 and sent to work in the fields at 5—understood only the physical. He thought he could beat the softness out of me and make me hard like him.
When I was 21, I left my house in New Orleans and headed to Atlanta to be a playwright. I got a day job as a bill collector and scrimped and saved to put on my play I Know I've Been Changed— a musical about recovering from an abusive childhood. But even though I was writing about recovering, I wasn't doing it. Every day I felt angry and bitter and terribly lonely. I rarely dated, and if a woman told me she loved me, I headed for the door. My play bombed; 30 people came on opening weekend. I put it on the next year and the year after that, and each time, it bombed again. Finally, 28 years old, out of money and months behind on my rent, I started sleeping in my car. When the car broke down, I asked my father to cosign on a new one, as he had just done for my sister (the light-skinned sister he adored). When he refused, I forged his signature. And when the car got repossessed, he called me, yelling. Sitting in that little room I'd just scraped together enough money to rent, listening to him berate me, something snapped. Something dormant in me woke up, and I began to yell back.
I told him that he'd hated me since I was born, that I didn't deserve the things he'd done to me. Everything I'd ever felt or thought—even things I hadn't been aware of—came out. When I was done, the line was silent for a long time. And then, for the first time ever, my father said, "I love you."
After we hung up, I felt light, empty, and exhausted. I knew that I would never again look at my father in hurt or anger. But in a strange way, I also sensed that something had died. I sat crying for hours, as if I were in mourning. My energy source, my fight, the rage that had moved me every day—it was all gone.
Slowly but surely, I began to fuel my days with joy instead of fury. That year—call it coincidence, call it karma—my play sold out. Then it sold out again, and then again. I began to write new plays, and the theme of forgiveness runs through them all. It's simple: When you haven't forgiven those who've hurt you, you turn your back against your future. When you do forgive, you start walking forward.
I can't get over how powerful his last statement is:
When you haven't forgiven those who've hurt you, you turn your back against your future. When you do forgive, you start walking forward.
I understand and agree with the idea that forgiving others is more about your peace of mind then it is about their feelings. You don't have to make it known to those who have hurt you that you have forgiven them.
The issue is learning how to transcend the hurt, how to get to a place in your heart and mind where the hurt is no longer holding you back from fully caring for others and allowing yourself to be cared for by others.
Is it possible to truly forgive all transgressions?
How do you forgive someone who physically abused you when you were a child?
How do you forgive someone who raped you or a family member?
How do you forgive someone who spread vicious and humiliating lies about you?
How do you forgive parents who put their own needs and egos way ahead of your basic emotional needs as a child?
How do you forgive a parent who left you when you were young?
How do you forgive someone who has sucked the joy out of your life through his or her negative, hypocritical, phony, lazy, selfish, and ill-tempered behavior through decades of marriage?
Maybe complete forgiveness is impossible in some cases. Maybe hurt that you have encountered is so bad that you will suffer to some degree until you pass on because you will always be angry at the people who hurt you.
If you are determined to find a way to free yourself of the burden of chronic anger, no matter how badly you have been hurt, there is one powerful and effective exercise that I can recommend.
It's to sit or lie in a quiet place and imagine your tormentors as they were when they were babies or young children. Visualize these people one at a time, and really take time to feel the realities of their lives as toddlers.
Babies are not born with a distinct desire to hurt others physically or emotionally. They are born craving love and protection. Visualize what your tormentors were like when they did nothing but crave love and protection.
If you work at realizing how pure and innocent your tormentors once were, you may come to a point where it becomes clear that their hurtful acts as older children or adults likely stem from their own wounds.
If you know of another effective way of bringing yourself to forgive people who have hurt you badly, I would appreciate you sharing in the comments section below. Your thoughts on this topic may make a significant difference in another person's life.
Thoughts on Forgiving Someone Who Has Hurt You, by Myra Bailes
By Myra Bailes
I definitely agree that forgiveness is often more about freeing oneself from limiting, painful emotions than it is about releasing the person who hurt you from responsibility for their actions.
Many times the people who hurt others are so unconscious of their own inner processes that they will continue to behave in the same or similar ways throughout their lives. They are simply too damaged and too ignorant to be able to do what it takes to recover and become sane, caring human beings.
What I have experienced also, is that most people have so many layers and characteristics, some of which may all tend in the same direction, while others seem to work at cross purposes. The same person who actually does love and respect and care about you may also harbor tremendous anger, condescension, frustration, etc., and they may at times believe that you are responsible for their unpleasant emotions, and treat you accordingly.
Since you are also a human being with many layers and characteristics, your own inner fears and conflicts and unpleasant emotions may indeed have triggered their reactions toward you. While I would hesitate to say that all this emotional pain and confusion and unconsciousness is "normal," it is certainly so common that probably almost everyone experiences it at least to some degree.
So, what are the keys to unraveling this stuff so that we can all free ourselves from past trauma? I believe there are:
1. Commitment. Realize that you are important enough to deserve to recover and be free to give and receive affection and respect. Respect the pain and the power it has to teach you about yourself, about others, about life. And commit to not giving up to despair.
Commit to inner honesty, commit to continue working to free yourself, to open yourself to life.
2. Listen to what your dreams are trying to tell you. Your organism constantly seeks to heal itself on all levels.
Sometimes your dreams may speak of your anxiety, your grief. Contemplate the dream images on an emotional level and feel compassion toward yourself. Other times your dreams may show you a tremendous beauty, love, peace, joy. This type of dream indicates that you do indeed still have all of this inside of you, trying to manifest in your life. Acknowledge this message by consciously assisting your inner joy, love, peace, and beauty to find active expression in your waking life.
3. Forgive yourself and don't get caught up in remorse. Feel it, but don't be attached to it. Remorse should be your loving teacher--no matter how painful the memories--but not your slavemaster or torturer. By and by, as you learn to forgive yourself, the forgiveness towards others--and towards the hardships of life in general--will also develop.
4. Don't expect "perfection." Forgiveness usually isn't an all-or-nothing, once-and-forever phenomenon. The only real perfection lies in transcendence, in universal consciousness, toward which each being, through the power of life itself, unceasingly attempts to move. Every time an inner barrier dissolves, rejoice and breathe! You have passed a milestone, but the journey is not over!
5. Try to understand the personality and emotional components of your relationships with other people.
Learn to be your own emotional detective. Your feelings can be valuable clues, both to your own inner self as well as to the personality and emotions of other people. Understood in this light, your relationships can teach you many valuable lessons.
Sometimes the lesson might be, "I need to understand, love, and respect myself more". Other times it might be, "This is a person with whom I should not be in a close relationship."
Respect your intuition and understanding and act accordingly, focusing on taking the best possible care of yourself--not on negative emotions or actions towards the other person.
6. Don't be in a hurry. If you tend to "fall in love at first sight" and then soon find that Mr. or Ms. Right isn't so right after all, even might be someone who is going to hurt you a lot, consciously try to slow it down! Why are you in such a big hurry? Is it because you are so desperate for affection that you are forgetting to first find out if this person is actually worthy of a close relationship with you?
Respect your need for affection first of all by respecting your right to personal safety and well-being. If you love and respect yourself, you will know more about what to look for in others, and more apt to find relationships with people who truly love and respect you. So don't be in a hurry. Take your time, be observant, and choose your friends and "significant others" carefully and consciously.
7. Sometimes a sense of humor can come to the rescue! I know people who gush at me when they see me. These same people, however, do nothing to create or maintain a friendship with me. They never call me, never invite me to their house, do not return my phone calls or respond to my e-mails. Yes, I've felt angry at them sometimes. I resent their apparent shallowness. But hey, there's nothing that says I have to build my emotional satisfaction around these people! If that's how they are or how they want to be, who am I to try to change them? Essentially they are harmless, they are not out there killing and maiming, cheating and stealing; they are just a little flighty and insincere. They've just wounded my vanity a little bit. Big deal! And then I laugh at the absurdity of it all. It's like the James Thurber cartoon where it shows a zillion people all rushing to and fro along a busy street going past a cemetery. The only text is "Destinations." So I just appreciate myself a bit, and giggle. In the end, we're all going to the same place anyway!
I definitely agree that forgiveness is often more about freeing oneself from limiting, painful emotions than it is about releasing the person who hurt you from responsibility for their actions.
Many times the people who hurt others are so unconscious of their own inner processes that they will continue to behave in the same or similar ways throughout their lives. They are simply too damaged and too ignorant to be able to do what it takes to recover and become sane, caring human beings.
What I have experienced also, is that most people have so many layers and characteristics, some of which may all tend in the same direction, while others seem to work at cross purposes. The same person who actually does love and respect and care about you may also harbor tremendous anger, condescension, frustration, etc., and they may at times believe that you are responsible for their unpleasant emotions, and treat you accordingly.
Since you are also a human being with many layers and characteristics, your own inner fears and conflicts and unpleasant emotions may indeed have triggered their reactions toward you. While I would hesitate to say that all this emotional pain and confusion and unconsciousness is "normal," it is certainly so common that probably almost everyone experiences it at least to some degree.
So, what are the keys to unraveling this stuff so that we can all free ourselves from past trauma? I believe there are:
1. Commitment. Realize that you are important enough to deserve to recover and be free to give and receive affection and respect. Respect the pain and the power it has to teach you about yourself, about others, about life. And commit to not giving up to despair.
Commit to inner honesty, commit to continue working to free yourself, to open yourself to life.
2. Listen to what your dreams are trying to tell you. Your organism constantly seeks to heal itself on all levels.
Sometimes your dreams may speak of your anxiety, your grief. Contemplate the dream images on an emotional level and feel compassion toward yourself. Other times your dreams may show you a tremendous beauty, love, peace, joy. This type of dream indicates that you do indeed still have all of this inside of you, trying to manifest in your life. Acknowledge this message by consciously assisting your inner joy, love, peace, and beauty to find active expression in your waking life.
3. Forgive yourself and don't get caught up in remorse. Feel it, but don't be attached to it. Remorse should be your loving teacher--no matter how painful the memories--but not your slavemaster or torturer. By and by, as you learn to forgive yourself, the forgiveness towards others--and towards the hardships of life in general--will also develop.
4. Don't expect "perfection." Forgiveness usually isn't an all-or-nothing, once-and-forever phenomenon. The only real perfection lies in transcendence, in universal consciousness, toward which each being, through the power of life itself, unceasingly attempts to move. Every time an inner barrier dissolves, rejoice and breathe! You have passed a milestone, but the journey is not over!
5. Try to understand the personality and emotional components of your relationships with other people.
Learn to be your own emotional detective. Your feelings can be valuable clues, both to your own inner self as well as to the personality and emotions of other people. Understood in this light, your relationships can teach you many valuable lessons.
Sometimes the lesson might be, "I need to understand, love, and respect myself more". Other times it might be, "This is a person with whom I should not be in a close relationship."
Respect your intuition and understanding and act accordingly, focusing on taking the best possible care of yourself--not on negative emotions or actions towards the other person.
6. Don't be in a hurry. If you tend to "fall in love at first sight" and then soon find that Mr. or Ms. Right isn't so right after all, even might be someone who is going to hurt you a lot, consciously try to slow it down! Why are you in such a big hurry? Is it because you are so desperate for affection that you are forgetting to first find out if this person is actually worthy of a close relationship with you?
Respect your need for affection first of all by respecting your right to personal safety and well-being. If you love and respect yourself, you will know more about what to look for in others, and more apt to find relationships with people who truly love and respect you. So don't be in a hurry. Take your time, be observant, and choose your friends and "significant others" carefully and consciously.
7. Sometimes a sense of humor can come to the rescue! I know people who gush at me when they see me. These same people, however, do nothing to create or maintain a friendship with me. They never call me, never invite me to their house, do not return my phone calls or respond to my e-mails. Yes, I've felt angry at them sometimes. I resent their apparent shallowness. But hey, there's nothing that says I have to build my emotional satisfaction around these people! If that's how they are or how they want to be, who am I to try to change them? Essentially they are harmless, they are not out there killing and maiming, cheating and stealing; they are just a little flighty and insincere. They've just wounded my vanity a little bit. Big deal! And then I laugh at the absurdity of it all. It's like the James Thurber cartoon where it shows a zillion people all rushing to and fro along a busy street going past a cemetery. The only text is "Destinations." So I just appreciate myself a bit, and giggle. In the end, we're all going to the same place anyway!
Do You Hate The Way You Look?
By Dr Kim.
In March of 2006, I received the following letter from someone who consulted with me for a skin condition:
Dear Dr. Kim,
I wondered if you would have any advice because I'm having a very hard time emotionally. I'm having a problem with low self esteem and self confidence, mainly because of my (health condition).
I don't have any friends or acquaintances (in my local area), and I've had a huge problem with loneliness over the past year.
I feel too embarrassed to meet other young people because of the (health condition), and I feel my emotional state has taken a large toll on me. It seems like a catch 22 situation.
I would appreciate any thoughts or suggestions you have on this.
Best wishes,Jessica
Because I have received letters like Jessica's over the years from people of both genders, all ages, and a variety of ethnic backgrounds, I thought it might be helpful to share some of the thoughts that I included in my reply to Jessica.
If you've been reading our site for a while, you may know that I came to do the work that I do now because of my own health challenges as a 19-year old.
Due to a variety of stressors that I faced at that time, I developed a skin condition called vitiligo. Over a period of 3-4 years, I lost approximately 25 percent of my skin color in patches on my face and body.
This condition affected every part of my life. I thought that no one would hire me as a chiropractor because of the way that I looked. I was depressed because I couldn't play tennis, baseball, and basketball for hours at a time like I used to without getting sun burned. I was sure that no one would ever want to marry me.
For about two years, I couldn't even look at myself in the mirror. I showered, brushed my teeth, and washed my face in the bathroom with the lights off. Such was the extent to which I had come to loathe my scars.
I'd like to tell you that there was one magical moment when it all turned around for me. The truth is that it took many years to overcome my low self esteem and addiction to self pity.
There were a number of thoughts and events that encouraged me to see my physical appearance differently.
At one point, I realized that the person who made the most of my physical appearance was me. When I made it a big issue in my own mind, it seemed to become more of an issue to those around me. When I went about my life without obsessing over my appearance, it clearly became less of an issue to people I interacted with.
Sure, there were a few people here and there who clearly indicated that they didn't want anything to do with me because of my unique physical appearance, but for the most part, almost everyone I met and interacted with didn't even bring it up. Some even made me feel like they didn't notice it at all.
Another important epiphany occurred when a friend asked me to consider how I would want my own future child to go about his or her life if they faced the same circumstances that I faced. In recognizing that I would not want low self esteem over physical appearance to hinder my own child's life in any way, I was inspired to begin the practice of living my own life in a way that resembled how I wished my own child's life would turn out.
It took me until I was about the age of 26 or 27 to feel relatively free of the self pity that I allowed to plague me since I developed vitiligo.
And since that time, I've come to realize repeatedly that my experiences with vitiligo and low self esteem over my physical appearance are among the greatest gifts that I have ever received.
Because of my experiences, I can truly relate to clients who have a health challenge that involves anxiety about their physical appearance. If I didn't have the experience of not being able to turn the lights on in the bathroom, I believe that I would have less capacity to understand and help some of these people. To focus solely on dietary choices when a person can't even look into a mirror without a visceral reaction is not likely to lead to a positive, long term outcome.
My vitiligo also gives me the ability to quickly identify people who place more importance on a person's character than on a person's looks. When my wife knew that she wanted to marry me when she was 25-years old, I knew that I had found someone who recognized my spirit. I didn't need a handsome face, fancy clothes, a stuffed wallet, a flashy sports car, or a 5,000 square foot home to have her want to marry me.
Without my vitiligo, I doubt that I would have gotten interested in leading the healthy lifestyle that my family does now.
I could share many more blessings that have come about because of the skin condition that caused years of sadness, but hopefully, my point is clear.
If you suffer with anxiety about your physical appearance, I hope that you will take some time to consider the many ways in which your current and past suffering can lead to a bright and meaningful life. As Shakespeare wrote, "...there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so."
It's difficult to change the way that you feel about yourself in just a few days. But I hope that you are inspired to think about your appearance and life in a way that you would want your own child to think about his or her own situation.
In March of 2006, I received the following letter from someone who consulted with me for a skin condition:
Dear Dr. Kim,
I wondered if you would have any advice because I'm having a very hard time emotionally. I'm having a problem with low self esteem and self confidence, mainly because of my (health condition).
I don't have any friends or acquaintances (in my local area), and I've had a huge problem with loneliness over the past year.
I feel too embarrassed to meet other young people because of the (health condition), and I feel my emotional state has taken a large toll on me. It seems like a catch 22 situation.
I would appreciate any thoughts or suggestions you have on this.
Best wishes,Jessica
Because I have received letters like Jessica's over the years from people of both genders, all ages, and a variety of ethnic backgrounds, I thought it might be helpful to share some of the thoughts that I included in my reply to Jessica.
If you've been reading our site for a while, you may know that I came to do the work that I do now because of my own health challenges as a 19-year old.
Due to a variety of stressors that I faced at that time, I developed a skin condition called vitiligo. Over a period of 3-4 years, I lost approximately 25 percent of my skin color in patches on my face and body.
This condition affected every part of my life. I thought that no one would hire me as a chiropractor because of the way that I looked. I was depressed because I couldn't play tennis, baseball, and basketball for hours at a time like I used to without getting sun burned. I was sure that no one would ever want to marry me.
For about two years, I couldn't even look at myself in the mirror. I showered, brushed my teeth, and washed my face in the bathroom with the lights off. Such was the extent to which I had come to loathe my scars.
I'd like to tell you that there was one magical moment when it all turned around for me. The truth is that it took many years to overcome my low self esteem and addiction to self pity.
There were a number of thoughts and events that encouraged me to see my physical appearance differently.
At one point, I realized that the person who made the most of my physical appearance was me. When I made it a big issue in my own mind, it seemed to become more of an issue to those around me. When I went about my life without obsessing over my appearance, it clearly became less of an issue to people I interacted with.
Sure, there were a few people here and there who clearly indicated that they didn't want anything to do with me because of my unique physical appearance, but for the most part, almost everyone I met and interacted with didn't even bring it up. Some even made me feel like they didn't notice it at all.
Another important epiphany occurred when a friend asked me to consider how I would want my own future child to go about his or her life if they faced the same circumstances that I faced. In recognizing that I would not want low self esteem over physical appearance to hinder my own child's life in any way, I was inspired to begin the practice of living my own life in a way that resembled how I wished my own child's life would turn out.
It took me until I was about the age of 26 or 27 to feel relatively free of the self pity that I allowed to plague me since I developed vitiligo.
And since that time, I've come to realize repeatedly that my experiences with vitiligo and low self esteem over my physical appearance are among the greatest gifts that I have ever received.
Because of my experiences, I can truly relate to clients who have a health challenge that involves anxiety about their physical appearance. If I didn't have the experience of not being able to turn the lights on in the bathroom, I believe that I would have less capacity to understand and help some of these people. To focus solely on dietary choices when a person can't even look into a mirror without a visceral reaction is not likely to lead to a positive, long term outcome.
My vitiligo also gives me the ability to quickly identify people who place more importance on a person's character than on a person's looks. When my wife knew that she wanted to marry me when she was 25-years old, I knew that I had found someone who recognized my spirit. I didn't need a handsome face, fancy clothes, a stuffed wallet, a flashy sports car, or a 5,000 square foot home to have her want to marry me.
Without my vitiligo, I doubt that I would have gotten interested in leading the healthy lifestyle that my family does now.
I could share many more blessings that have come about because of the skin condition that caused years of sadness, but hopefully, my point is clear.
If you suffer with anxiety about your physical appearance, I hope that you will take some time to consider the many ways in which your current and past suffering can lead to a bright and meaningful life. As Shakespeare wrote, "...there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so."
It's difficult to change the way that you feel about yourself in just a few days. But I hope that you are inspired to think about your appearance and life in a way that you would want your own child to think about his or her own situation.
Friday, September 11, 2009
How To Forgive Someone Who Has Hurt You
By Dr Ben Kim
A few days ago, I was flipping through an Oprah magazine that my wife borrowed from our public library when I came across a short piece on forgiveness by playwright and actor Tyler Perry.
Here's the part that I felt a strong connection to:
My father was a carpenter. He used his hands to pour concrete and hammer nails. He also used his hands to beat me.
I was a tall child, but sickly—I had asthma—and when I went to work with him, the sawdust made me cough. I preferred staying home, writing and drawing. I conjured up other worlds: worlds in which I didn't worry about being poor, in which I was someone else's child, a child who lived in a mansion and had a dog. My father—a man with a third-grade education who was orphaned at 2 and sent to work in the fields at 5—understood only the physical. He thought he could beat the softness out of me and make me hard like him.
When I was 21, I left my house in New Orleans and headed to Atlanta to be a playwright. I got a day job as a bill collector and scrimped and saved to put on my play I Know I've Been Changed— a musical about recovering from an abusive childhood. But even though I was writing about recovering, I wasn't doing it. Every day I felt angry and bitter and terribly lonely. I rarely dated, and if a woman told me she loved me, I headed for the door. My play bombed; 30 people came on opening weekend. I put it on the next year and the year after that, and each time, it bombed again. Finally, 28 years old, out of money and months behind on my rent, I started sleeping in my car. When the car broke down, I asked my father to cosign on a new one, as he had just done for my sister (the light-skinned sister he adored). When he refused, I forged his signature. And when the car got repossessed, he called me, yelling. Sitting in that little room I'd just scraped together enough money to rent, listening to him berate me, something snapped. Something dormant in me woke up, and I began to yell back.
I told him that he'd hated me since I was born, that I didn't deserve the things he'd done to me. Everything I'd ever felt or thought—even things I hadn't been aware of—came out. When I was done, the line was silent for a long time. And then, for the first time ever, my father said, "I love you."
After we hung up, I felt light, empty, and exhausted. I knew that I would never again look at my father in hurt or anger. But in a strange way, I also sensed that something had died. I sat crying for hours, as if I were in mourning. My energy source, my fight, the rage that had moved me every day—it was all gone.
Slowly but surely, I began to fuel my days with joy instead of fury. That year—call it coincidence, call it karma—my play sold out. Then it sold out again, and then again. I began to write new plays, and the theme of forgiveness runs through them all. It's simple: When you haven't forgiven those who've hurt you, you turn your back against your future. When you do forgive, you start walking forward.
I can't get over how powerful his last statement is:
When you haven't forgiven those who've hurt you, you turn your back against your future. When you do forgive, you start walking forward.
I understand and agree with the idea that forgiving others is more about your peace of mind then it is about their feelings. You don't have to make it known to those who have hurt you that you have forgiven them.
The issue is learning how to transcend the hurt, how to get to a place in your heart and mind where the hurt is no longer holding you back from fully caring for others and allowing yourself to be cared for by others.
Is it possible to truly forgive all transgressions?
How do you forgive someone who physically abused you when you were a child?
How do you forgive someone who raped you or a family member?
How do you forgive someone who spread vicious and humiliating lies about you?
How do you forgive parents who put their own needs and egos way ahead of your basic emotional needs as a child?
How do you forgive a parent who left you when you were young?
How do you forgive someone who has sucked the joy out of your life through his or her negative, hypocritical, phony, lazy, selfish, and ill-tempered behavior through decades of marriage?
Maybe complete forgiveness is impossible in some cases. Maybe hurt that you have encountered is so bad that you will suffer to some degree until you pass on because you will always be angry at the people who hurt you.
If you are determined to find a way to free yourself of the burden of chronic anger, no matter how badly you have been hurt, there is one powerful and effective exercise that I can recommend.
It's to sit or lie in a quiet place and imagine your tormentors as they were when they were babies or young children. Visualize these people one at a time, and really take time to feel the realities of their lives as toddlers.
Babies are not born with a distinct desire to hurt others physically or emotionally. They are born craving love and protection. Visualize what your tormentors were like when they did nothing but crave love and protection.
If you work at realizing how pure and innocent your tormentors once were, you may come to a point where it becomes clear that their hurtful acts as older children or adults likely stem from their own wounds.If you know of another effective way of bringing yourself to forgive people who have hurt you badly, I would appreciate you sharing in the comments section below. Your thoughts on this topic may make a significant difference in another person's life.
A few days ago, I was flipping through an Oprah magazine that my wife borrowed from our public library when I came across a short piece on forgiveness by playwright and actor Tyler Perry.
Here's the part that I felt a strong connection to:
My father was a carpenter. He used his hands to pour concrete and hammer nails. He also used his hands to beat me.
I was a tall child, but sickly—I had asthma—and when I went to work with him, the sawdust made me cough. I preferred staying home, writing and drawing. I conjured up other worlds: worlds in which I didn't worry about being poor, in which I was someone else's child, a child who lived in a mansion and had a dog. My father—a man with a third-grade education who was orphaned at 2 and sent to work in the fields at 5—understood only the physical. He thought he could beat the softness out of me and make me hard like him.
When I was 21, I left my house in New Orleans and headed to Atlanta to be a playwright. I got a day job as a bill collector and scrimped and saved to put on my play I Know I've Been Changed— a musical about recovering from an abusive childhood. But even though I was writing about recovering, I wasn't doing it. Every day I felt angry and bitter and terribly lonely. I rarely dated, and if a woman told me she loved me, I headed for the door. My play bombed; 30 people came on opening weekend. I put it on the next year and the year after that, and each time, it bombed again. Finally, 28 years old, out of money and months behind on my rent, I started sleeping in my car. When the car broke down, I asked my father to cosign on a new one, as he had just done for my sister (the light-skinned sister he adored). When he refused, I forged his signature. And when the car got repossessed, he called me, yelling. Sitting in that little room I'd just scraped together enough money to rent, listening to him berate me, something snapped. Something dormant in me woke up, and I began to yell back.
I told him that he'd hated me since I was born, that I didn't deserve the things he'd done to me. Everything I'd ever felt or thought—even things I hadn't been aware of—came out. When I was done, the line was silent for a long time. And then, for the first time ever, my father said, "I love you."
After we hung up, I felt light, empty, and exhausted. I knew that I would never again look at my father in hurt or anger. But in a strange way, I also sensed that something had died. I sat crying for hours, as if I were in mourning. My energy source, my fight, the rage that had moved me every day—it was all gone.
Slowly but surely, I began to fuel my days with joy instead of fury. That year—call it coincidence, call it karma—my play sold out. Then it sold out again, and then again. I began to write new plays, and the theme of forgiveness runs through them all. It's simple: When you haven't forgiven those who've hurt you, you turn your back against your future. When you do forgive, you start walking forward.
I can't get over how powerful his last statement is:
When you haven't forgiven those who've hurt you, you turn your back against your future. When you do forgive, you start walking forward.
I understand and agree with the idea that forgiving others is more about your peace of mind then it is about their feelings. You don't have to make it known to those who have hurt you that you have forgiven them.
The issue is learning how to transcend the hurt, how to get to a place in your heart and mind where the hurt is no longer holding you back from fully caring for others and allowing yourself to be cared for by others.
Is it possible to truly forgive all transgressions?
How do you forgive someone who physically abused you when you were a child?
How do you forgive someone who raped you or a family member?
How do you forgive someone who spread vicious and humiliating lies about you?
How do you forgive parents who put their own needs and egos way ahead of your basic emotional needs as a child?
How do you forgive a parent who left you when you were young?
How do you forgive someone who has sucked the joy out of your life through his or her negative, hypocritical, phony, lazy, selfish, and ill-tempered behavior through decades of marriage?
Maybe complete forgiveness is impossible in some cases. Maybe hurt that you have encountered is so bad that you will suffer to some degree until you pass on because you will always be angry at the people who hurt you.
If you are determined to find a way to free yourself of the burden of chronic anger, no matter how badly you have been hurt, there is one powerful and effective exercise that I can recommend.
It's to sit or lie in a quiet place and imagine your tormentors as they were when they were babies or young children. Visualize these people one at a time, and really take time to feel the realities of their lives as toddlers.
Babies are not born with a distinct desire to hurt others physically or emotionally. They are born craving love and protection. Visualize what your tormentors were like when they did nothing but crave love and protection.
If you work at realizing how pure and innocent your tormentors once were, you may come to a point where it becomes clear that their hurtful acts as older children or adults likely stem from their own wounds.If you know of another effective way of bringing yourself to forgive people who have hurt you badly, I would appreciate you sharing in the comments section below. Your thoughts on this topic may make a significant difference in another person's life.
Perfect Valentine's Day Gift Ideas For the Special Woman
By Connor R Sullivan
Valentine's Day is the time of the year when many couple celebrates their love and affection towards each other through spending quality time with each other, having a romantic dinner together and exchanging gifts. Males usually get confused as to what they should give their female partners on Valentine's Day. No one can ever go wrong with the idea of giving jewelry as gift especially on a day which symbolizes love, care and affection. There are many options to choose from when it comes to purchasing jewelry as gifts. Unique pieces such as Artisan jewelry and Sundance jewelry would make perfect gifts. However, there is also option of enjoying the current trend of jewelry gift ideas such as those made of diamonds and set in platinum.
For those who can't afford diamond and platinum can consider buying cubic zirconia stones crafted in sterling silver. This will make a perfect gift for any women. Valentine's Day is a favorite day for proposals and it makes cubic zirconia rings a hot pick for the season. Similar to diamond engagement ring sets, there are cubic zirconia rings sets as well which has the look of a real large diamond and is much cheaper than the real diamond. There are few nice ways in which a Valentine's Day ring can be presented to the beloved one. A ribbon can be used to tie the ring onto it and further tying the ribbon to a teddy bear and a rose.
Cubic zirconia bangles and bracelets are also in fashion and they make great gifts. They can be presented by hanging over the neck of a wine bottle or placed on the wrist of the teddy bear. Further gift ideas include presenting a heart shaped pendant and a necklace. Hearts symbolizes love and this is what Valentine's Day is all about. Nothing can make a better gift than a heart which shows love. Heart pendants come in traditional style as well as the floating style.
Many women do not leave home without wearing a pair of nice earrings and this is the reason earrings are another popular gift idea for Valentine's Day. The various designs include stud types, hoop style and most terrific of all is the heart shaped earrings. Since eternity bands symbolize forever, they make a perfect gift for Valentine's Day. The continuous gems crafted on an eternity band tells the tale of no beginning no end and this is what most people feel about love and their feeling for each other. A better idea to present this gift is to tie to a ribbon and place it with roses in a chocolate box. The person receiving the gift will love this surprise.
To show love, care, affection and respect to someone special is a good thing. Valentine's Day is not just a day to please partners but it is a day to show how much love there is for each other. Combining love and care and all the feeling there is for the special woman with a lovely gift and presenting it on a special day such as Valentines Day is truly the best thing a person can ever do.
Valentine's Day is the time of the year when many couple celebrates their love and affection towards each other through spending quality time with each other, having a romantic dinner together and exchanging gifts. Males usually get confused as to what they should give their female partners on Valentine's Day. No one can ever go wrong with the idea of giving jewelry as gift especially on a day which symbolizes love, care and affection. There are many options to choose from when it comes to purchasing jewelry as gifts. Unique pieces such as Artisan jewelry and Sundance jewelry would make perfect gifts. However, there is also option of enjoying the current trend of jewelry gift ideas such as those made of diamonds and set in platinum.
For those who can't afford diamond and platinum can consider buying cubic zirconia stones crafted in sterling silver. This will make a perfect gift for any women. Valentine's Day is a favorite day for proposals and it makes cubic zirconia rings a hot pick for the season. Similar to diamond engagement ring sets, there are cubic zirconia rings sets as well which has the look of a real large diamond and is much cheaper than the real diamond. There are few nice ways in which a Valentine's Day ring can be presented to the beloved one. A ribbon can be used to tie the ring onto it and further tying the ribbon to a teddy bear and a rose.
Cubic zirconia bangles and bracelets are also in fashion and they make great gifts. They can be presented by hanging over the neck of a wine bottle or placed on the wrist of the teddy bear. Further gift ideas include presenting a heart shaped pendant and a necklace. Hearts symbolizes love and this is what Valentine's Day is all about. Nothing can make a better gift than a heart which shows love. Heart pendants come in traditional style as well as the floating style.
Many women do not leave home without wearing a pair of nice earrings and this is the reason earrings are another popular gift idea for Valentine's Day. The various designs include stud types, hoop style and most terrific of all is the heart shaped earrings. Since eternity bands symbolize forever, they make a perfect gift for Valentine's Day. The continuous gems crafted on an eternity band tells the tale of no beginning no end and this is what most people feel about love and their feeling for each other. A better idea to present this gift is to tie to a ribbon and place it with roses in a chocolate box. The person receiving the gift will love this surprise.
To show love, care, affection and respect to someone special is a good thing. Valentine's Day is not just a day to please partners but it is a day to show how much love there is for each other. Combining love and care and all the feeling there is for the special woman with a lovely gift and presenting it on a special day such as Valentines Day is truly the best thing a person can ever do.
Monday, September 7, 2009
Top 10 Things That Can Turn a Girl Off
By Mark J Hamilton
Girls are very sensitive beings and they can't help it if they have a long list of standards when it comes to the right guy they should be dating. Meeting a girl for the first time is the most critical time of the year. This is when they start to observe and get to know what kind of guy you are. No, they're not rude. They're just born that way. Here are a few things that can turn a girl off. Find out how many you have and do something about it. And I mean, now!
Being a slob. The cleanliness department is ruled by the female species. So make sure you wear clean clothes, brush your teeth, cut your nails and comb your hair. Hygiene is a must.
Drinking and smoking. Girls will eventually accept the fact that you have a vice, but don't drink binge or smoke yourself blind when they're around.
Hanging out with your buddies a lot. Sure, they're your friends but girls do find it annoying if you spend too much time with them, especially if you ditch her for the sake of your buddies.
Your obsession with Sports. Lucky you if she's a sports enthusiast. But really. Girls would rather talk of something else than discussing the current score board.
Talking about your ex. As long as she doesn't you about them it's completely unacceptable. Especially when she's now your girlfriend. Talking about other girls. It's a complete insult when you try to check out other girls in the presence of your date. It's downright rude so cut the crap.
Being jobless. Girls are looking for guys who are independent and can pay for their dates. If you're still living with your parents and jobless, then forget it.
Acting needy and desperate. Clingy guys? Nah!
Being insensitive. Sometimes, girls want you to read their minds. But you can't. The least you can do is be sensitive to detect that something's wrong.
Ignoring them. You don't want to be ignored. You know the feeling right? So show us a little attention. Better yet, give it all.
If you still think it's hard to impress the ladies, know more on the things that can turn a girl off and the things that turn her on by visiting my website for further details. Say goodbye to boring days and hello to an exciting dating and flirting days ahead! It's just one click away.
Girls are very sensitive beings and they can't help it if they have a long list of standards when it comes to the right guy they should be dating. Meeting a girl for the first time is the most critical time of the year. This is when they start to observe and get to know what kind of guy you are. No, they're not rude. They're just born that way. Here are a few things that can turn a girl off. Find out how many you have and do something about it. And I mean, now!
Being a slob. The cleanliness department is ruled by the female species. So make sure you wear clean clothes, brush your teeth, cut your nails and comb your hair. Hygiene is a must.
Drinking and smoking. Girls will eventually accept the fact that you have a vice, but don't drink binge or smoke yourself blind when they're around.
Hanging out with your buddies a lot. Sure, they're your friends but girls do find it annoying if you spend too much time with them, especially if you ditch her for the sake of your buddies.
Your obsession with Sports. Lucky you if she's a sports enthusiast. But really. Girls would rather talk of something else than discussing the current score board.
Talking about your ex. As long as she doesn't you about them it's completely unacceptable. Especially when she's now your girlfriend. Talking about other girls. It's a complete insult when you try to check out other girls in the presence of your date. It's downright rude so cut the crap.
Being jobless. Girls are looking for guys who are independent and can pay for their dates. If you're still living with your parents and jobless, then forget it.
Acting needy and desperate. Clingy guys? Nah!
Being insensitive. Sometimes, girls want you to read their minds. But you can't. The least you can do is be sensitive to detect that something's wrong.
Ignoring them. You don't want to be ignored. You know the feeling right? So show us a little attention. Better yet, give it all.
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Religious Dating in the World Today
By Billy Bob Bronson
Though many people would argue that caste, religion, and culture don't play a big part in the modern dating scene any longer, there are actually people who believe that these aspects are essential in their lives. In fact, one of the biggest issues and a major personal preference when choosing a partner is religion.
In the United States of America alone, for instance, religion (particularly Christianity), functions as a very big aspect in a person's life with a large percentage of the population considering themselves as Christians. And because of this, a lot of free religious dating sites have emerged to be able to cater singles who want partners who share the same religious views and beliefs as well.
Religious online dating sites are in a sense unique from the usual online dating services you see online since they focus an ample portion of their scope to the religion being promoted. For instance, free Christian dating sites focus their features, perks, and intentions towards pure Christian dating and to Christians who want to enjoy the fun of dating.
In truth, there are many people who take religious customs very seriously when choosing a partner, stating in their profiles that they would only communicate or entertain potential partners who share in the same religious views, practices, and beliefs as them.
Therefore, if you are the type of person who is very strict and conservative with regards to religious views, definitely religious dating would be the best online portal for you. There are many available online dating services that cater to devout religious singles such as yourself, so take the time to look through these sites online.
Though many people would argue that caste, religion, and culture don't play a big part in the modern dating scene any longer, there are actually people who believe that these aspects are essential in their lives. In fact, one of the biggest issues and a major personal preference when choosing a partner is religion.
In the United States of America alone, for instance, religion (particularly Christianity), functions as a very big aspect in a person's life with a large percentage of the population considering themselves as Christians. And because of this, a lot of free religious dating sites have emerged to be able to cater singles who want partners who share the same religious views and beliefs as well.
Religious online dating sites are in a sense unique from the usual online dating services you see online since they focus an ample portion of their scope to the religion being promoted. For instance, free Christian dating sites focus their features, perks, and intentions towards pure Christian dating and to Christians who want to enjoy the fun of dating.
In truth, there are many people who take religious customs very seriously when choosing a partner, stating in their profiles that they would only communicate or entertain potential partners who share in the same religious views, practices, and beliefs as them.
Therefore, if you are the type of person who is very strict and conservative with regards to religious views, definitely religious dating would be the best online portal for you. There are many available online dating services that cater to devout religious singles such as yourself, so take the time to look through these sites online.
Dating Background Checks - Are They Really Necessary?
By Deborah S Nelson
A wise and savvy person once coined the phrase, "All is Fair in Love and War," but had they glimpsed into the future of online dating, they would have seen both LOVE and WAR waged on the same battleground: the Internet.
The Wild West of the Internet has allowed matters of the heart to become fair game for dating scams, con artists, and Love Predators! The war they wage is to win access to your mental space, your home, your bank account, your precious time, your heart, and in the worst cases, your children's innocence. Today, every encounter with a virtual stranger could be putting you and your family at risk.
With 55% of online dating profiles being false, dating experts advise running back ground checks for online dating safety.
But how realistic is this? And WHEN do you run back ground checks? Before the first Starbucks date? How do you ask your date for their social security number? Should you run a background check just before physical intimacy? What if someone runs a background check on you? At what point are you so invested in the relationship that you really don't want to know?
What is Dating ID? It is the proactive solution for returning truth to the worldwide dating scene. Dating ID reduces risk and exposure to the love predators while providing entry to the Truthful Dating Community.
Dating ID is simple. It is voluntary and is updated annually. A background check is not voluntary and invades privacy, and is generally less accurate than verified information. With Dating ID, it's not necessary to ask for someone's SSN. Dating ID covers its holders for an entire year and can be used offline and online in any dating or social networking situation.
A wise and savvy person once coined the phrase, "All is Fair in Love and War," but had they glimpsed into the future of online dating, they would have seen both LOVE and WAR waged on the same battleground: the Internet.
The Wild West of the Internet has allowed matters of the heart to become fair game for dating scams, con artists, and Love Predators! The war they wage is to win access to your mental space, your home, your bank account, your precious time, your heart, and in the worst cases, your children's innocence. Today, every encounter with a virtual stranger could be putting you and your family at risk.
With 55% of online dating profiles being false, dating experts advise running back ground checks for online dating safety.
But how realistic is this? And WHEN do you run back ground checks? Before the first Starbucks date? How do you ask your date for their social security number? Should you run a background check just before physical intimacy? What if someone runs a background check on you? At what point are you so invested in the relationship that you really don't want to know?
What is Dating ID? It is the proactive solution for returning truth to the worldwide dating scene. Dating ID reduces risk and exposure to the love predators while providing entry to the Truthful Dating Community.
Dating ID is simple. It is voluntary and is updated annually. A background check is not voluntary and invades privacy, and is generally less accurate than verified information. With Dating ID, it's not necessary to ask for someone's SSN. Dating ID covers its holders for an entire year and can be used offline and online in any dating or social networking situation.
Background Checks - Everything You Need to Know About Your Future Spouse
By Brian Prinz
What is so critical about conducting criminal background checks? You may have been acquainted with an individual for a substantial length of period, making you experience uneasiness when looking for the proverbial skeletons in their closet; so why do it?
But not all individual is sincerely trustworthy. Wouldn't you enjoy making sure the your neighbor is not a convicted criminal? Moreover, what if that criminal was also guilty of multiple assaults? Or what if that person is a registered sexual offender?
What are the proper steps necessary for you to obtain this background? Are you conscious that an individual's arrests, convictions, and time served in prison are all open information? Yes, this is a reality. As databases having these type of facts need to be taken care of just like any other files you may have to pay a small fee to find out, but you should not have any worry conducting a background search. Being safety-sensitive is more valuable as always,as well as there is no problems with getting your own individual confirmation.
Never take the risk that that this research has been done by somebody besides you. Moreover remember that not all criminal background checks are equal. There are a few that miss noteworthy information. Then some have only a little data and may only have information within certain states. You have to be informed of this!
When a total examination is made you will get the exact fine points of a individual's charges if you perform the background search on your own. If you are relying on somebody else to do the history search, could you feel safe even though the person who did the history examination was neglecting records you feel important.
Your well being is what it is all about. And your household wants you to keep them safe too. Do not permit possible important problems to be ignored. Take the time to be aware of who you are living and functioning around before something dangerous happens.
What is so critical about conducting criminal background checks? You may have been acquainted with an individual for a substantial length of period, making you experience uneasiness when looking for the proverbial skeletons in their closet; so why do it?
But not all individual is sincerely trustworthy. Wouldn't you enjoy making sure the your neighbor is not a convicted criminal? Moreover, what if that criminal was also guilty of multiple assaults? Or what if that person is a registered sexual offender?
What are the proper steps necessary for you to obtain this background? Are you conscious that an individual's arrests, convictions, and time served in prison are all open information? Yes, this is a reality. As databases having these type of facts need to be taken care of just like any other files you may have to pay a small fee to find out, but you should not have any worry conducting a background search. Being safety-sensitive is more valuable as always,as well as there is no problems with getting your own individual confirmation.
Never take the risk that that this research has been done by somebody besides you. Moreover remember that not all criminal background checks are equal. There are a few that miss noteworthy information. Then some have only a little data and may only have information within certain states. You have to be informed of this!
When a total examination is made you will get the exact fine points of a individual's charges if you perform the background search on your own. If you are relying on somebody else to do the history search, could you feel safe even though the person who did the history examination was neglecting records you feel important.
Your well being is what it is all about. And your household wants you to keep them safe too. Do not permit possible important problems to be ignored. Take the time to be aware of who you are living and functioning around before something dangerous happens.
Friday, September 4, 2009
Female Orgasm Secrets
By Bernice L
Women should be fully aware that there are quite a number of female orgasm secrets. The reason why a lot of women fail to achieve orgasm is because they fail to achieve intense arousal. It is for this reason that sex becomes uncomfortable, sometimes even painful and orgasm is never achieved. Men's arousal and orgasm differs significantly from that of a woman.
One of the best orgasm secrets a woman should understand is that foreplay is extremely important to set her in the mood and help her achieve optimum lubrication. As a woman, you should not allow your partner to just attack your vagina without proper stimulation. Women like it sweet and slow. Therefore, gentle caressing, teasing, touching of other parts other than the vagina is an excellent way to start the fire. Make your partner understand that sex is not all about the vagina. It is also about stimulating other parts of your body like your breasts, thighs, tummy and neck.
Learning the art of sex has a lot to do with a woman's arousal. Discover your erogenous zones. You and your partner should explore your body and together you can discover your pleasure zones. This is a helpful way for you to uncover other orgasm secrets. Watch sex videos together with your partner and read various sex references. This way, you will know where your most sensitive parts are located such as the G-spot. Play with your fingers and let your partner do the same. Be creative in bed with your hands. Touching can ignite the fire and unleash sexual desire you never thought ever existed.
When making love, learn how to satisfy each other without jumping into penetration. With the use of your hands, you can explore your bodies and discover powerful sensations. Adequate stimulation can lead to a series of orgasms. The best way to facilitate foreplay is through the use of all-natural Vigorelle cream. This is specially made to help women feel intense arousal with just a gentle touch. Virgorelle has a powerful formulation proven to help women achieve satisfaction in bed from foreplay all the way to a mind-blowing orgasm.
Women should be fully aware that there are quite a number of female orgasm secrets. The reason why a lot of women fail to achieve orgasm is because they fail to achieve intense arousal. It is for this reason that sex becomes uncomfortable, sometimes even painful and orgasm is never achieved. Men's arousal and orgasm differs significantly from that of a woman.
One of the best orgasm secrets a woman should understand is that foreplay is extremely important to set her in the mood and help her achieve optimum lubrication. As a woman, you should not allow your partner to just attack your vagina without proper stimulation. Women like it sweet and slow. Therefore, gentle caressing, teasing, touching of other parts other than the vagina is an excellent way to start the fire. Make your partner understand that sex is not all about the vagina. It is also about stimulating other parts of your body like your breasts, thighs, tummy and neck.
Learning the art of sex has a lot to do with a woman's arousal. Discover your erogenous zones. You and your partner should explore your body and together you can discover your pleasure zones. This is a helpful way for you to uncover other orgasm secrets. Watch sex videos together with your partner and read various sex references. This way, you will know where your most sensitive parts are located such as the G-spot. Play with your fingers and let your partner do the same. Be creative in bed with your hands. Touching can ignite the fire and unleash sexual desire you never thought ever existed.
When making love, learn how to satisfy each other without jumping into penetration. With the use of your hands, you can explore your bodies and discover powerful sensations. Adequate stimulation can lead to a series of orgasms. The best way to facilitate foreplay is through the use of all-natural Vigorelle cream. This is specially made to help women feel intense arousal with just a gentle touch. Virgorelle has a powerful formulation proven to help women achieve satisfaction in bed from foreplay all the way to a mind-blowing orgasm.
The Secret to Really Great Sex
By David Shade
The Sad Truth About Sex Today
Here are some very sad and sobering truths about modern sexuality:
* 30% of ALL women have never had an orgasm in their life.
* 70% of women have NEVER had an orgasm during intercourse.
* Over half of all women have FAKED an orgasm.
Stop and take a moment to think about what this means.
If you are a man reading this, it means 50% of the women you have had sex with faked an orgasm. And if the other half were able to orgasm with you, it probably happened because they used their hands or a vibrator.
If you are a woman reading this it means there is a 1-in-3 chance you have never had an orgasm. And if you have been fortunate enough to experience an orgasm, it most likely wasn't from having sex with your man.
This is a sad reality about modern sexuality because ALL healthy women can have orgasms during sex!
Modern medicine wants to put the blame on women for these problems, and the bozos in the 'male enhancement' industry want you to think your 'size' is the problem. They are both feeding you a load of crap to make money.
All Of Us Are Sexual Creatures
All of us are born sexual creatures. (I realize this may come as a shock to many guys, to learn women are sexual too). Fact is, if we weren't sexual we would die off.
But no one is born knowing how to have Great Sex any more than you are born knowing how to walk. The good news is learning to have good sex is like learning how to walk, once you've got it, you won't have to think about it. You'll just do it.
Listen, any guy can figure out how to stick 'it' in and pump-n-dump. In fact this is what most guys do. It's also why 70% of women never orgasm during sex. Face it... if you want your woman to orgasm, you must understand what she needs. This is what I'm here for, to help you figure it out.
The Secret To Really Great Sex
You probably won't believe this once you see it, but it is the true secret to great sex with your woman. Do this, and she will do anything to make you happy, because no other man will have ever done this for her.
This is the secret to being a truly Masterful Lover. EVERYTHING I teach is based on this one secret.
Are you ready? Good, here it is...
Stop thinking about 'getting' sex from women. Instead focus on giving your woman Incredible Pleasure by giving her Really Good Sex.
In short... FOCUS ON THE WOMAN'S PLEASURE instead of your own. She will be so thrilled she will want you to feel just as much pleasure as you have given her.
Now, you might just have had to stop and let the power of this wash over you. Excellent! You have just taken a major step towards being the kind of lover women dream about.
When you love nothing more than to give a woman the most powerful long-lasting orgasm of her life... This will make you stand out like a great Dane in a room full of chihuahuas
( If you are thinking 'bull crap', there isn't much I can do to help you. You should probably click away now to one of the 3,150,000 websites on sexual positions or one of the 2,070,000 websites on male-enhancement.)
Everything You Need To Satisfy A Woman Is Already Within Her
There are so many men who only focus on their own needs when it comes to sex. You only have ask a woman or poke around online to know this is true.
Thing is, it's amazingly easy to stand out from these lame lovers by doing just this one simple thing... Focus On Her Pleasure.
If you have this as your mind-set, you'll easily figure out how to do this because you are now paying attention to everything she wants you to know about her body and what she likes. Everything you need to satisfy her is already inside her, and she WANTS you to discover it.
But you must Pay Attention!
This is the essence of what it means to be a Masterful Lover.
David Shade is internationally known for his No B.S. approach to sexuality, and as someone who had the courage to step outside the boundaries of conventional wisdom to find out what really works and works powerfully when it comes to giving women pleasure. Because of this David has improved the sex lives and relationships of tens of thousands of men, women and couples in 105 different countries.
David is the author of "The Secrets of Female Sexuality" (available at Amazon and Barnes & Noble) and has been a featured speaker on the topic of advanced sexuality and sexual pleasure at numerous conferences, written about in Men's Health and OUI Magazine, and a special guest on Playboy Radio and David DeAngelo's Interviews with Dating Gurus.
The Sad Truth About Sex Today
Here are some very sad and sobering truths about modern sexuality:
* 30% of ALL women have never had an orgasm in their life.
* 70% of women have NEVER had an orgasm during intercourse.
* Over half of all women have FAKED an orgasm.
Stop and take a moment to think about what this means.
If you are a man reading this, it means 50% of the women you have had sex with faked an orgasm. And if the other half were able to orgasm with you, it probably happened because they used their hands or a vibrator.
If you are a woman reading this it means there is a 1-in-3 chance you have never had an orgasm. And if you have been fortunate enough to experience an orgasm, it most likely wasn't from having sex with your man.
This is a sad reality about modern sexuality because ALL healthy women can have orgasms during sex!
Modern medicine wants to put the blame on women for these problems, and the bozos in the 'male enhancement' industry want you to think your 'size' is the problem. They are both feeding you a load of crap to make money.
All Of Us Are Sexual Creatures
All of us are born sexual creatures. (I realize this may come as a shock to many guys, to learn women are sexual too). Fact is, if we weren't sexual we would die off.
But no one is born knowing how to have Great Sex any more than you are born knowing how to walk. The good news is learning to have good sex is like learning how to walk, once you've got it, you won't have to think about it. You'll just do it.
Listen, any guy can figure out how to stick 'it' in and pump-n-dump. In fact this is what most guys do. It's also why 70% of women never orgasm during sex. Face it... if you want your woman to orgasm, you must understand what she needs. This is what I'm here for, to help you figure it out.
The Secret To Really Great Sex
You probably won't believe this once you see it, but it is the true secret to great sex with your woman. Do this, and she will do anything to make you happy, because no other man will have ever done this for her.
This is the secret to being a truly Masterful Lover. EVERYTHING I teach is based on this one secret.
Are you ready? Good, here it is...
Stop thinking about 'getting' sex from women. Instead focus on giving your woman Incredible Pleasure by giving her Really Good Sex.
In short... FOCUS ON THE WOMAN'S PLEASURE instead of your own. She will be so thrilled she will want you to feel just as much pleasure as you have given her.
Now, you might just have had to stop and let the power of this wash over you. Excellent! You have just taken a major step towards being the kind of lover women dream about.
When you love nothing more than to give a woman the most powerful long-lasting orgasm of her life... This will make you stand out like a great Dane in a room full of chihuahuas
( If you are thinking 'bull crap', there isn't much I can do to help you. You should probably click away now to one of the 3,150,000 websites on sexual positions or one of the 2,070,000 websites on male-enhancement.)
Everything You Need To Satisfy A Woman Is Already Within Her
There are so many men who only focus on their own needs when it comes to sex. You only have ask a woman or poke around online to know this is true.
Thing is, it's amazingly easy to stand out from these lame lovers by doing just this one simple thing... Focus On Her Pleasure.
If you have this as your mind-set, you'll easily figure out how to do this because you are now paying attention to everything she wants you to know about her body and what she likes. Everything you need to satisfy her is already inside her, and she WANTS you to discover it.
But you must Pay Attention!
This is the essence of what it means to be a Masterful Lover.
David Shade is internationally known for his No B.S. approach to sexuality, and as someone who had the courage to step outside the boundaries of conventional wisdom to find out what really works and works powerfully when it comes to giving women pleasure. Because of this David has improved the sex lives and relationships of tens of thousands of men, women and couples in 105 different countries.
David is the author of "The Secrets of Female Sexuality" (available at Amazon and Barnes & Noble) and has been a featured speaker on the topic of advanced sexuality and sexual pleasure at numerous conferences, written about in Men's Health and OUI Magazine, and a special guest on Playboy Radio and David DeAngelo's Interviews with Dating Gurus.
How to Prolong Orgasm, Increase Libido, and Last Longer in Bed
By George Christodoulou
Let it out, it's ok for a man to cry you know, especially when you have been deluding yourself that you were a lion in bed but your woman dumped you because you couldn't last longer than 5 minutes! Come on man, I'm not dissing you. I'm just stating the fact and sympathizing with you!
Ok enough of this self pity trip now wipe your snot and get ready because I am going to give you a list of herbs and one particular exercise that will help increase your libido and last longer in bed for better satisfaction.
Herbs
Diet is very important when it comes to a man lasting longer in bed. If you take the right vitamins and proteins and other supplements that increase the flow of blood to your penis then rest assured you should be able to increase your prolonging capacity. Herbs like ginseng, horny goat weed, Cnidium, Tribulus Terrestris extracts are known to increase the flow of blood to your penis, enlarges the veins for such better flow and makes you prolong longer. These herbs are available on many herbal sex pills. Look for those because you wouldn't have to measure the right quantity to consume. But make sure that you look for the pills that have all these herbs.
Exercise
How you perform in bed also depends on how well you exercise your penile muscles. Shaking hands with the president is definitely not bad. Learn to masturbate in moderation. When you do masturbate, learn to control your orgasm. Take your hands away from you and start masturbating again after a while. Repeat this process and it will definitely train your body and your mind to have a greater stamina.
Try both these tips from day one and start them together you will definitely see the difference in a matter of few day.
Let it out, it's ok for a man to cry you know, especially when you have been deluding yourself that you were a lion in bed but your woman dumped you because you couldn't last longer than 5 minutes! Come on man, I'm not dissing you. I'm just stating the fact and sympathizing with you!
Ok enough of this self pity trip now wipe your snot and get ready because I am going to give you a list of herbs and one particular exercise that will help increase your libido and last longer in bed for better satisfaction.
Herbs
Diet is very important when it comes to a man lasting longer in bed. If you take the right vitamins and proteins and other supplements that increase the flow of blood to your penis then rest assured you should be able to increase your prolonging capacity. Herbs like ginseng, horny goat weed, Cnidium, Tribulus Terrestris extracts are known to increase the flow of blood to your penis, enlarges the veins for such better flow and makes you prolong longer. These herbs are available on many herbal sex pills. Look for those because you wouldn't have to measure the right quantity to consume. But make sure that you look for the pills that have all these herbs.
Exercise
How you perform in bed also depends on how well you exercise your penile muscles. Shaking hands with the president is definitely not bad. Learn to masturbate in moderation. When you do masturbate, learn to control your orgasm. Take your hands away from you and start masturbating again after a while. Repeat this process and it will definitely train your body and your mind to have a greater stamina.
Try both these tips from day one and start them together you will definitely see the difference in a matter of few day.
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Decade of Separation
By Jimmy Dugan
The decade of separation seems to be your forties. Whether you are married or live together, it seems this decade scrambles our priorities. Or maybe I should say the priorities we used to have. Men and women alike change during this time period. But why? What happens?
People reach this age and look at life and what they have worked at, suffered with, accomplished, compromised at, and the list goes on and on. When they are done contemplating the trials and tribulations of life, for some reason, many find they are not happy. And I mean not happy enough, and to leave the relationship, no matter what the cost.
I have seen documentaries and have read on the subject, and it has been said that men and women both go through menopause. But at this age, most are still a tad too young for menopause yet. It's like a pre-menopause.
So what happens? The short answer is LIFE. Change is inevitable in life we all know. And that goes for our relationships too. We are human beings and we grow, and develop.
For men, which has been talked about for many years, you hear the stories about affairs, divorce for a younger woman, and buying the sports car. They may go further and get a tattoo, grow a beard, change their wardrobe, and the list goes on. Why does this happen? What happened to the man every knew? The quick answer is that people often say "he's going through a change of life".
As an older age approaches, they try and find the youth they lost. They are getting older and don't want to. But who does? Most have worked hard, provided for their family, raised kids, saved money for their college education, and spent very little time on themselves or their happiness. Their partnership or marriage seems to wain as the closeness they felt with their partner ends up as two people living together. Period.
Life is busy, and the times you spent together when falling in love, and those feelings seem to subside. Not that they are gone, but just not in the forefront any longer. Now that he is on the downside of life and virtually can see the end coming, they want to be happy, feel young, and enjoy life. And that's not easy as they start to put on weight, lose their hair, and have to start considering putting together a will, buying more life insurance, contemplating cemetery plots, and alike. It can be depressing.
Many go into a state of depression. Some seek help from a professional, some make a lot of mistakes that will inevitably change or ruin their lives or partnerships, some will snap out of it, and some will deal with it responsibly.
Their desire for their partner partner may change also. If the partner is a homemaker or a working person doesn't matter. As time passes, they partner may let themselves go physically. We tend to accept each other but to what degree? If the partner doesn't keep themselves dressed nicely, they let themselves go physically, are always tired, do not have the time for their partner, and the list goes on, what happens to their relationship?
People always talk about two people growing apart. We do change for sure, but as we change do we bring our partner along with us to be a part of our lives? Or is that even possible?
Women change also. In many of the same ways men do. And why not? A woman gets older and grows just like a man. Her thought on many things change too. They come into their own and become different people too. The thoughts of how their life turned out to this point can be unsettling for many. Their look at their partner putting on weight, losing their hair, not getting any love or attention, and feel like they are a maid, life coach, or both.
Hands down in most relationships a woman keeps everything together. A woman makes about eighty percent of the decisions for purchases in their home. They have a lot of responsibility and when arriving in their forties, they wonder about their happiness too. Women are very independent today, not like many years ago. For the most part they are not dependent on a man for their livelihood. They are who they are. And women have sexual desires like a man too. Especially in their forties, as many find their desires are stronger and they enjoy it even more. They take second looks at younger men and think...
Happiness is a desire of theirs too. Is their man coming through with love, attention, and gratitude? Well, maybe not so much. Is it done intentionally? I don't think so in either case. But it's called life. Life just happens.
In this decade of separation, a woman seems to become stronger then they ever were when they were younger. Some don't want to compromise any more if they feel their relationship isn't worth it. Many worked at home or at a job, raised their kids and their man, and now want the rest of their life for themselves. Can you blame them? And honestly, I think you will find that a woman doesn't need a man, but a man needs a woman you will find more then not.
So what will she do and why? Life just happens. And it seems this decade of separation of the forties is real and should be taken seriously. But by the time anyone see's a problem, life already happened.
When issue's arise, no matter how silly they may sound to you, they need to be addressed, verbalized, and taken seriously as you both grow. Forming a long lasting partnership does need work because of all the shit life throws at you as we grow and change.
You both need to MAKE time for each other. You make time for everything else in life, why not each other? But people don't usually. And then the decade of separation comes and you find yourselves in a terrible circumstance. A life altering circumstance!
The mind blowing passion that you feel for your partner when you meet doesn't stay forever. Those chemicals in your brain will tend to wear off but your deep love for that person, if you remember, is still there. But you have to nurture it. Should love be a job? I hope you don't look at it this way, but it does need to be worked on, for sure. Anything worth having, is worth working for, because love remembers.
Jimmy Dugan
The decade of separation seems to be your forties. Whether you are married or live together, it seems this decade scrambles our priorities. Or maybe I should say the priorities we used to have. Men and women alike change during this time period. But why? What happens?
People reach this age and look at life and what they have worked at, suffered with, accomplished, compromised at, and the list goes on and on. When they are done contemplating the trials and tribulations of life, for some reason, many find they are not happy. And I mean not happy enough, and to leave the relationship, no matter what the cost.
I have seen documentaries and have read on the subject, and it has been said that men and women both go through menopause. But at this age, most are still a tad too young for menopause yet. It's like a pre-menopause.
So what happens? The short answer is LIFE. Change is inevitable in life we all know. And that goes for our relationships too. We are human beings and we grow, and develop.
For men, which has been talked about for many years, you hear the stories about affairs, divorce for a younger woman, and buying the sports car. They may go further and get a tattoo, grow a beard, change their wardrobe, and the list goes on. Why does this happen? What happened to the man every knew? The quick answer is that people often say "he's going through a change of life".
As an older age approaches, they try and find the youth they lost. They are getting older and don't want to. But who does? Most have worked hard, provided for their family, raised kids, saved money for their college education, and spent very little time on themselves or their happiness. Their partnership or marriage seems to wain as the closeness they felt with their partner ends up as two people living together. Period.
Life is busy, and the times you spent together when falling in love, and those feelings seem to subside. Not that they are gone, but just not in the forefront any longer. Now that he is on the downside of life and virtually can see the end coming, they want to be happy, feel young, and enjoy life. And that's not easy as they start to put on weight, lose their hair, and have to start considering putting together a will, buying more life insurance, contemplating cemetery plots, and alike. It can be depressing.
Many go into a state of depression. Some seek help from a professional, some make a lot of mistakes that will inevitably change or ruin their lives or partnerships, some will snap out of it, and some will deal with it responsibly.
Their desire for their partner partner may change also. If the partner is a homemaker or a working person doesn't matter. As time passes, they partner may let themselves go physically. We tend to accept each other but to what degree? If the partner doesn't keep themselves dressed nicely, they let themselves go physically, are always tired, do not have the time for their partner, and the list goes on, what happens to their relationship?
People always talk about two people growing apart. We do change for sure, but as we change do we bring our partner along with us to be a part of our lives? Or is that even possible?
Women change also. In many of the same ways men do. And why not? A woman gets older and grows just like a man. Her thought on many things change too. They come into their own and become different people too. The thoughts of how their life turned out to this point can be unsettling for many. Their look at their partner putting on weight, losing their hair, not getting any love or attention, and feel like they are a maid, life coach, or both.
Hands down in most relationships a woman keeps everything together. A woman makes about eighty percent of the decisions for purchases in their home. They have a lot of responsibility and when arriving in their forties, they wonder about their happiness too. Women are very independent today, not like many years ago. For the most part they are not dependent on a man for their livelihood. They are who they are. And women have sexual desires like a man too. Especially in their forties, as many find their desires are stronger and they enjoy it even more. They take second looks at younger men and think...
Happiness is a desire of theirs too. Is their man coming through with love, attention, and gratitude? Well, maybe not so much. Is it done intentionally? I don't think so in either case. But it's called life. Life just happens.
In this decade of separation, a woman seems to become stronger then they ever were when they were younger. Some don't want to compromise any more if they feel their relationship isn't worth it. Many worked at home or at a job, raised their kids and their man, and now want the rest of their life for themselves. Can you blame them? And honestly, I think you will find that a woman doesn't need a man, but a man needs a woman you will find more then not.
So what will she do and why? Life just happens. And it seems this decade of separation of the forties is real and should be taken seriously. But by the time anyone see's a problem, life already happened.
When issue's arise, no matter how silly they may sound to you, they need to be addressed, verbalized, and taken seriously as you both grow. Forming a long lasting partnership does need work because of all the shit life throws at you as we grow and change.
You both need to MAKE time for each other. You make time for everything else in life, why not each other? But people don't usually. And then the decade of separation comes and you find yourselves in a terrible circumstance. A life altering circumstance!
The mind blowing passion that you feel for your partner when you meet doesn't stay forever. Those chemicals in your brain will tend to wear off but your deep love for that person, if you remember, is still there. But you have to nurture it. Should love be a job? I hope you don't look at it this way, but it does need to be worked on, for sure. Anything worth having, is worth working for, because love remembers.
Jimmy Dugan
How to Stop a Divorce - Ways You Can Stop a Divorce
By Carolyn Anderson
If there are problems in a marriage that can no longer be resolved by the couple, one of them turns to divorce as a solution. If your spouse thinks about getting a divorce and you disagree with it, you can still slow down the process. But if you do that, you are only making it more painful. So instead of thinking on how to slow it down, why not just stop it?
But before thinking of ways on how to stop a divorce, think first if your marriage is worth saving in the first place. If you think it's worth the effort, then do something to work things out. Remember that saving a troubled marriage requires the cooperation of both parties involved. Both spouses should have the willingness to compromise on saving the relationship.
If you are looking for options on how to stop a divorce, you actually have quiet a few. One option is to do nothing. Doing nothing means staying in your unhappy marriage. This is your alternative if you think you can handle the disappointment of an unhappy relationship better than living with the pain and disruption of an expensive divorce. If you opt for this so-called parallel marriage, both of you can still live in the same house and have your own fulfilling lives even without enjoying a traditional happy marriage.
If you can't stand living with your spouse anymore but you don't want a divorce, you can consider trial separation. This setup will allow the spouse who is considering a divorce to experience the feeling of being separated without finally deciding to get one. But for it to work well, both of you should agree on an arrangement for this trial separation. The arrangement should involve talks on how will you handle your bank accounts, household bills and credit cards. This option is advantageous because it is easily reversible.
Another effective tip on how to stop a divorce is getting a marriage counseling. This can be of great help in saving a seriously troubled marriage. However, it can also be as painful as divorce. If done right, counseling has the real potential to save a rocky marriage. But it means big changes in how you deal with each other and with your relationship. Marriage counselors are already experienced in handling different marital problems so they are more knowledgeable in resolving your issues.
But if your spouse already filed a divorce and you want to stop it, request the court to either put the case on hold or postpone it. This will give you more time to work on convincing your spouse who filed the case to reconcile your differences. But if your spouse is ignoring your pleas on stopping the case and all your efforts have failed, it's about time for you to get a lawyer and settle things out in legal terms.
For other suggestions on how to stop a divorce, you may also consider some Internet sites that offer counseling services and other helpful resources for married couples. You can also join other organizations that can rekindle your marital vows and might possibly save your marriage
If there are problems in a marriage that can no longer be resolved by the couple, one of them turns to divorce as a solution. If your spouse thinks about getting a divorce and you disagree with it, you can still slow down the process. But if you do that, you are only making it more painful. So instead of thinking on how to slow it down, why not just stop it?
But before thinking of ways on how to stop a divorce, think first if your marriage is worth saving in the first place. If you think it's worth the effort, then do something to work things out. Remember that saving a troubled marriage requires the cooperation of both parties involved. Both spouses should have the willingness to compromise on saving the relationship.
If you are looking for options on how to stop a divorce, you actually have quiet a few. One option is to do nothing. Doing nothing means staying in your unhappy marriage. This is your alternative if you think you can handle the disappointment of an unhappy relationship better than living with the pain and disruption of an expensive divorce. If you opt for this so-called parallel marriage, both of you can still live in the same house and have your own fulfilling lives even without enjoying a traditional happy marriage.
If you can't stand living with your spouse anymore but you don't want a divorce, you can consider trial separation. This setup will allow the spouse who is considering a divorce to experience the feeling of being separated without finally deciding to get one. But for it to work well, both of you should agree on an arrangement for this trial separation. The arrangement should involve talks on how will you handle your bank accounts, household bills and credit cards. This option is advantageous because it is easily reversible.
Another effective tip on how to stop a divorce is getting a marriage counseling. This can be of great help in saving a seriously troubled marriage. However, it can also be as painful as divorce. If done right, counseling has the real potential to save a rocky marriage. But it means big changes in how you deal with each other and with your relationship. Marriage counselors are already experienced in handling different marital problems so they are more knowledgeable in resolving your issues.
But if your spouse already filed a divorce and you want to stop it, request the court to either put the case on hold or postpone it. This will give you more time to work on convincing your spouse who filed the case to reconcile your differences. But if your spouse is ignoring your pleas on stopping the case and all your efforts have failed, it's about time for you to get a lawyer and settle things out in legal terms.
For other suggestions on how to stop a divorce, you may also consider some Internet sites that offer counseling services and other helpful resources for married couples. You can also join other organizations that can rekindle your marital vows and might possibly save your marriage
Heal Your Broken Heart - Win Back Your Ex Boyfriend
By Mel M
Breaking up is indeed quite hard to accept. If you have just gone through a breakup you may still be feeling lonely and neck-deep in misery. You need to get over that breakup and move on. If you find that you are really still in love with your ex boyfriend and you want him back, here are some techniques which you can use to win back your ex.
Accept. To get over the breakup you have to accept that it has happened. Look back and answer the question why it happened? When you are not able to accept the breakup, you will surely be whining and begging and you will be one pitiful sight to behold.
Look back. Assess your relationship and the things which have happened in the past. Look at the good times and the bad. Try to see whether your relationship is worth saving. If you are going to take the extra mile to ensure that you get back with your ex boyfriend, you have to make sure that your relationship is worth fighting for.
Decide. So you have decided that your relationship is worth saving. So you are now in the process of thinking how are you going to go about it? In order to answer this question, you have to answer numerous questions regarding your relationship and what happened that you eventually went separate ways. Questions such as what went wrong? Were you taking each other for granted? Is somebody overly controlling another? Did your relationship just died a natural death because both of you did not exert effort to keep the embers of love and romance burning?
Ask: Ask yourself whether you are ready to change and be a better half in the relationship? Are you willing to go the extra mile to work things out with your ex boyfriend?
Change: If you are willing to say yes to the questions that you have to ask yourself, then start now. Show your ex boyfriend that you are a changed person and that you are committed to starting anew.
Approach: With humility and sincerity, it is now the best time to talk to your ex boyfriend. Lay out everything on the table and try if you can talk through your differences. Don't call or text him. Oftentimes, patience will always reward you in the end.
Mel M
End your misery of having lost your girlfriend/ boyfriend. Proven and effective strategies you can start using today. How about a blueprint or a step by step guide which tells you exactly what to do .
If you truly want to get your ex back , go to this website now: How to get ex back It is the top resource on breakup advice and tips on getting your ex back courtesy of the leading relationship gurus.
We have searched the world over for the best resources to get your ex back . Want to know what went wrong along with unconventional techniques which are guaranteed to get your ex interested in you again and restore your relationship?
Breaking up is indeed quite hard to accept. If you have just gone through a breakup you may still be feeling lonely and neck-deep in misery. You need to get over that breakup and move on. If you find that you are really still in love with your ex boyfriend and you want him back, here are some techniques which you can use to win back your ex.
Accept. To get over the breakup you have to accept that it has happened. Look back and answer the question why it happened? When you are not able to accept the breakup, you will surely be whining and begging and you will be one pitiful sight to behold.
Look back. Assess your relationship and the things which have happened in the past. Look at the good times and the bad. Try to see whether your relationship is worth saving. If you are going to take the extra mile to ensure that you get back with your ex boyfriend, you have to make sure that your relationship is worth fighting for.
Decide. So you have decided that your relationship is worth saving. So you are now in the process of thinking how are you going to go about it? In order to answer this question, you have to answer numerous questions regarding your relationship and what happened that you eventually went separate ways. Questions such as what went wrong? Were you taking each other for granted? Is somebody overly controlling another? Did your relationship just died a natural death because both of you did not exert effort to keep the embers of love and romance burning?
Ask: Ask yourself whether you are ready to change and be a better half in the relationship? Are you willing to go the extra mile to work things out with your ex boyfriend?
Change: If you are willing to say yes to the questions that you have to ask yourself, then start now. Show your ex boyfriend that you are a changed person and that you are committed to starting anew.
Approach: With humility and sincerity, it is now the best time to talk to your ex boyfriend. Lay out everything on the table and try if you can talk through your differences. Don't call or text him. Oftentimes, patience will always reward you in the end.
Mel M
End your misery of having lost your girlfriend/ boyfriend. Proven and effective strategies you can start using today. How about a blueprint or a step by step guide which tells you exactly what to do .
If you truly want to get your ex back , go to this website now: How to get ex back It is the top resource on breakup advice and tips on getting your ex back courtesy of the leading relationship gurus.
We have searched the world over for the best resources to get your ex back . Want to know what went wrong along with unconventional techniques which are guaranteed to get your ex interested in you again and restore your relationship?
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
Signs of a Cheating Boyfriend
By Meka Powers
If you are in a relationship, there is a chance you may have or currently suspect that your boyfriend is cheating on you. Unfortunately, cheating is something most couples have to face at some point or another. You can avoid the suspicion of infidelity by knowing the signs of a cheating boyfriend that way you can take action once it is discovered but hopefully the truth is the opposite of what you suspect. Here are a few of the signs of a cheating boyfriend.
1. Comes home late at night- He could be working overtime, got caught in heavy traffic, having other issues but if this becomes a habit, especially if he goes to shower first, then that is a fed flag.
2. Not Romantic/Lacks Affection- If your boyfriend started out showing you a lot of affection and doing romantic things and it has suddenly dwindled, this is a red flag. Of course there may be other reasons but chances are he is getting it somewhere else.
3. Tells excuses for not spending time with you- There have been many cases where the girlfriend wants to spend time with the boyfriend but he always makes up excuses and says he has other things to do. This is all too common and if it happens often, that is also a sign of cheating.
Of course there are many more signs that can raise a red flag that your boyfriend may be cheating on you. If you know these signs, you can stop the cheating dead in its track and handle the situation in your own way. Suspecting infidelity can be very stressful but if you know what to look for, you can make things a lot easier for you.
If you are in a relationship, there is a chance you may have or currently suspect that your boyfriend is cheating on you. Unfortunately, cheating is something most couples have to face at some point or another. You can avoid the suspicion of infidelity by knowing the signs of a cheating boyfriend that way you can take action once it is discovered but hopefully the truth is the opposite of what you suspect. Here are a few of the signs of a cheating boyfriend.
1. Comes home late at night- He could be working overtime, got caught in heavy traffic, having other issues but if this becomes a habit, especially if he goes to shower first, then that is a fed flag.
2. Not Romantic/Lacks Affection- If your boyfriend started out showing you a lot of affection and doing romantic things and it has suddenly dwindled, this is a red flag. Of course there may be other reasons but chances are he is getting it somewhere else.
3. Tells excuses for not spending time with you- There have been many cases where the girlfriend wants to spend time with the boyfriend but he always makes up excuses and says he has other things to do. This is all too common and if it happens often, that is also a sign of cheating.
Of course there are many more signs that can raise a red flag that your boyfriend may be cheating on you. If you know these signs, you can stop the cheating dead in its track and handle the situation in your own way. Suspecting infidelity can be very stressful but if you know what to look for, you can make things a lot easier for you.
Working Through Relationship Problems
By Christine King
What is a relationship problem? It could be anything, but sometimes we tend to label things incorrectly and this in itself becomes a problem. Are you a 'headliner'? Do you label things in such a way that the headline screams 'problem', when in fact it is nothing of the sort?
Far too many of us 'awfulize' about things until they appear to be far worse than they are. Sometimes this is because there is a very strong emotional element involved, but nevertheless, we allow it to grow in our minds until it is totally out of proportion. We then give the 'problem' a headline and it becomes set in stone.
How to deal with 'the problem' becomes a problem in itself because it has become entwined in distortion, confusion, muddle and exaggeration. It then takes a clear head and a great deal of patience to make sense of everything. This takes huge amounts of time and effort - and guess what? It could have all been avoided if we had been able to control our awfulising.
The best way of dealing with awfulising is to start to recognize when it starts to happen. If you can train yourself to do this you will be making a major breakthrough. Then you need to work through your thinking process and try and evaluate in a logical and unemotional way, how to find a positive solution. The emphasis is on positive. Ask yourself questions and you will soon be able to 'unwrap' the problem and get to the heart of the matter. This will give you clarity and the ability to find a solution.
A very simple example might be that a passing remark is made about the fact that you are overweight. You dwell on this. Overweight becomes fat, and then obese, and then ugly.... It goes on until you are so depressed and unhappy that it starts to have a bearing on your relationship.
If you think this through logically and ask yourself questions such as: "Have I put on weight?", "How I look is obviously important to my partner", "What could I do about it?", "Diets don't work - what else can I try?", "Perhaps I could try a vegetarian option", etc., you will be able to work it out and come to a sensible conclusion.
What is a relationship problem? It could be anything, but sometimes we tend to label things incorrectly and this in itself becomes a problem. Are you a 'headliner'? Do you label things in such a way that the headline screams 'problem', when in fact it is nothing of the sort?
Far too many of us 'awfulize' about things until they appear to be far worse than they are. Sometimes this is because there is a very strong emotional element involved, but nevertheless, we allow it to grow in our minds until it is totally out of proportion. We then give the 'problem' a headline and it becomes set in stone.
How to deal with 'the problem' becomes a problem in itself because it has become entwined in distortion, confusion, muddle and exaggeration. It then takes a clear head and a great deal of patience to make sense of everything. This takes huge amounts of time and effort - and guess what? It could have all been avoided if we had been able to control our awfulising.
The best way of dealing with awfulising is to start to recognize when it starts to happen. If you can train yourself to do this you will be making a major breakthrough. Then you need to work through your thinking process and try and evaluate in a logical and unemotional way, how to find a positive solution. The emphasis is on positive. Ask yourself questions and you will soon be able to 'unwrap' the problem and get to the heart of the matter. This will give you clarity and the ability to find a solution.
A very simple example might be that a passing remark is made about the fact that you are overweight. You dwell on this. Overweight becomes fat, and then obese, and then ugly.... It goes on until you are so depressed and unhappy that it starts to have a bearing on your relationship.
If you think this through logically and ask yourself questions such as: "Have I put on weight?", "How I look is obviously important to my partner", "What could I do about it?", "Diets don't work - what else can I try?", "Perhaps I could try a vegetarian option", etc., you will be able to work it out and come to a sensible conclusion.
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