My Man Won't Commit - What Should I Do?

By Tina L. Jones


How come your man won't commit to you? Are you doing something wrong? Are you wondering if he's the right man for you after all? Commitment is such a big issue for women and yet such an important one - you don't want to waste time on a guy who has no intention of giving you the kind of relationship you're looking for. If your man won't commit, find out what you should do next.
You must understand that you can't force a guy to commit to you. If your man won't commit right now, try to understand why. Are you coming on too strong? Do you seem desperate to bag yourself a man and start having babies? Have you made it clear that you hate your job and want to be a kept woman? If you've answered yes then there's your problem right there!
The harder you push for commitment, the less likely you are to get it. If you have met the right guy and this is the right time, it won't be difficult to make that jump from just dating to an exclusive relationship. If it seems like a huge battle to you right now, then either the time isn't right, or the guy isn't the one for you.
If commitment is important to you then it is a good idea to discuss it. This way you can avoid wasting time on a man who has no intention of settling down in the next decade. Make sure you consider your own wants and needs here and not just his.
If he's not ready now, are you sure you want to hang around for a couple more years? He probably won't be ready then either, especially if he thinks he can put you off for a couple of years at a time and you'll still hang around. Consider whether he truly loves you or whether he's just using you. A lot of men will stay in a relationship they're not committed to simply because it's convenient. Don't waste the best years of your life on a guy like that.
Take him out somewhere that you can talk without being overheard and bring the subject up. Let him know that it is important to you, at this stage in your relationship, to know where he sees things going in the next year. Try not to be confrontational, this is not a war, you could be talking to your future husband here.
Make it clear to him that you love him and the life you have together and that you would like to take things to the next level to see how it works out. That's a reasonable request. If he gets freaked out by that, this guy will NEVER commit to you. If your man still won't commit after you've had a sensible, adult conversation, consider your own needs right now and be ready to move on if that's the best option.

By Tina L. Jones