How to Move On

By Carl Capellan

Moving on is hard to do. It's inexplicably tough especially when you're holding on to somebody and you can't just let go of the feelings for that person. It's even unbearable if it's a case of reciprocated love.
Channeling your energies to other worthwhile activities was the unanimous advice I've heard from my friends. One must need to divert their attention away from the source of the heartache. This is easier said than done. Can you turn your eyes away from the person the knocks you off your feet? Can you refrain from thinking of the person that makes you smile? Can you stop your ears from hearing his voice? Can you cease your breathing every time that person passes by so that you cannot smell his intoxicating scent? Its just like subjecting yourself into an unbearable agony, a suffering that you need to go through everyday of your life. How can you escape from this wretched existence then?
I believe that moving on starts with acceptance. For failed relationships, moving on begins with accepting the fact that it's over. For unrequited love, it starts with recognizing the fact that you're not for each other. Thinking that somebody better is meant for you is a healthy way of dealing with rejection. Acceptance starts when anguish ends. Moreover, acceptance paves the way for the healing process to commence.
Moving on also means letting go of your broken dreams and shattered illusions. When you're in love with a person, you can't help but plan your future with them. You see yourself doing things together, even to the point of growing old together. I think this a big factor why most people find it hard to let go. I feel for this people I because share the same sentiments with them.
Moving on also means emancipation from false hopes. Just because your crush smiled at you doesn't necessarily mean that he likes you too. Just because your ex texted you doesn't automatically mean that he wants you back. It's better not to jump into conclusions to avoid hurting yourself in the long run. We tend to do this when we are in love. We make a big deal out of simple gestures, especially of those were from the ones we love. I must admit I am guilty of this.
Moving on involves prayer. You ask the Lord to relieve your heart from the turbulence it feels and ask Him to give you wisdom to understand without questioning His divine plan for you. Prayer eases one's burden and clears one's mind. So in times of despair, talk to the Lord and meditate.
Everything has a beginning and an end. Love is no exception. Moving on was never easy. Lucky is he who has perfected the art of letting go. It takes time. It is a long and often a painful process. It entails a roller coaster of emotions that we need to overcome. This makes the whole experience more human. Only when we know how it feels to let go can we fully understand and appreciate how it is to love and be loved.


By Carl Capellan