5 Questions to Ask Your Unfaithful Spouse to Determine If There is a Future

By Edd Upperman


There is nothing quite as difficult to handle as finding out you have an unfaithful spouse. To think that you have put so much into a relationship and your partner has been cheating on you is devastating. As soon as you find out, there are some questions you will want to ask them to determine if there is a future ahead for the two of you.
1. Did you feel guilty? The first question you want to ask your unfaithful spouse is if they felt guilty after the first time. This will reveal the values of the person and how they really feel about you. Everyone is going to react different. Some feel so disgusted after the first time they end it immediately while others feel no guilt whatsoever. Find out how your spouse feels.
2. Did you talk about a future together? Find out if this was just an affair or if your partner has discussed a future with the other person. If they admit they have fallen in love with the other person and see a future with them, this can explain why it may have gone on for so long. If they say there was no future ever discussed, ask them why they did it in the first place.
3. What attracted you to the person? Although you may have an idea of what the person looks like or who it is, ask your partner what attracted them to the affair partner. Ask them to tell you why they provoked the affair, went through with it, and what they saw in the other person. Are these qualities different from the ones you possess?
4. Did you think about me at all? One of the toughest questions you will have to ask your unfaithful spouse is if they thought about you at all. Ask them if they thought about you before, during or after the affair happened. Although there are few positives that can come from a situation like this, it can be assuring to hear your spouse say they truthfully thought about you the entire time and feel extremely guilty.
5. Will you ever do it again? The final question you have to get the answers for is whether or not they will ever cheat again. Be firm and forceful to get the truth out of them. Ask them how they will prove to you they will never cheat again and why you should even trust them. It is difficult to remain with a partner after they have cheated, but it may be worth it if the two of you are still in love.

By Edd Upperman